Restricted from Stimming @ work

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So I had a conversation with my manager and he told me if I continue to stim at work my job will be in jeopardy. My manager knows of me having Asperger's. My question is should I take this to the person above my manager or report to HR or just skip the in work locations and go to the Government and file a claim of discrimination?

He said something else, but he knows I have Aspergers. Would it be wise to send him a link though our email about Stimming so he can better understand that it's something I need to do?

What kind of stimming are you doing? Is it disruptive or does it stop you from doing your job or others from doing their job?

What did you mean by "in jeopardy?"

One of my stimmings involves me chewing on plastic which grinds on my teeth which makes me feel extremely good. I will lose my job if it continues, but he gave me a stress relief ball.

This may or may not be an option for you - but I've found that since I started exercising every day, I hardly ever stim at work anymore (I used to rock a lot in my desk chair.) It's not a perfect solution - if things get too stressful, I still stim - but you might find it's worth a try.

Do you know exactly why your manager objects to your stimming? I ask because I wonder if there might be a way to stim without it bothering your manager. So, my first suggestion would be to explain that it is related to your AS and then ask him or her what about the stimming is a problem.

If you can't come to any kind of agreement with your manager, I would suggest going to someone higher up in the chain of command. If you do that, include some information about AS that explains the need to stim.

I would try to resolve it in a non-confrontational way if possible. I fear that most NT have great difficulty understanding the need to stim and may tend to side with your manager, simply because they may wrongly see stimming as "unnecessary" and think you are just being difficult.

If all else fails, though, perhaps it might work to make it a legal/discrimination issue. If at all possible, I would seek the advice of a lawyer on that -- an attorney could advise you about the prospects for success if you argue that the boss is being discriminatory. (My personal opinion is that you have every right to stim if you need to and the rest of the world should educate themselves about it before they criticize -- but I suspect you already know that the world rarely works the way it SHOULD.)

RudolfsDad ... I'm the same way, my boss says it bothers other people but none of them have come up to me and told me that so I don't know if it's true or not. I'm going to get as much info that I can but as an Aspie could feel is if I do this what are people going to think of me, is this situation going to get worse from all this. I gave him the information about stimming to him and he said if it happened again he would send it to his boss, which I'm thinking I might go ahead and request a meeting with her to talk to her about a mental need.