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CockneyRebel
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10 Dec 2007, 3:28 pm

I think that you should embrace it. I wish that my parents would have embraced my obsessions. I grew up, thinking that they hated me.


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10 Dec 2007, 4:52 pm

since I started this thread I have decided to embrace it. It brings her joy and thats all I care about...



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12 Dec 2007, 4:01 am

I am obsessed with Routemasters. I'm not fixated on them. Thank you for letting me step onto my "British" High Horse. :queen:

Obsession is a positive term. Fixation is a negative term.


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12 Dec 2007, 8:52 am

Sadies_Dad wrote:
My daugter gets fixated on things. The main fixation of her life is horses but for the christmas season its moved to reighndeer. She makes everything about them, its all she wants to talk about.

My question is do I as a parent try to stop this or embrace it? Do I take her to see real reighndeer and buy her stuffed ones or do I try and sway her into being interested in different things?

My gut says let her enjoy them and go with it but maybe I'm not supposed to?

Thanks.


Sadies Dad - Welcome to my world!! ! My daughter, AS 10 has had the "deer" fixation for a good 5 years now. It has tapered off in the last 2 years..but those first 3 years were deer this - deer that - Rudolph this, Rudolph that - Bambie - Prince of the Forest..you get my drift?!
We embraced it - she drew pictures of deer, wrote stories about deer - had to point out every "bambi's father" on the yellow deer crossing signs on the side of the road.
I say let her have fun! My daughter has since moved to cats - house cats, lions, bobcats, cheetas, tigers.. you name it - she's into it. There is no harm introducing more than just a deer - if you do get her a stuffed animal, maybe get another animal as a friend to the deer.

Good luck!
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12 Dec 2007, 9:53 am

It's my understand it that you should not only embrace it but also try to expand on it.
I watched a workshop with Maria Wheeler a few weeks ago. She told us the story of her autistic brother and how he was obsessed with trains. Their dad not only helped him build a big train track in their house but also introduced the boy to books that have to do with how trains are built. That led into an interest in engineering.
It seems reasonable that we provide the tools but let them follow the lead



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12 Dec 2007, 3:57 pm

Our son has had a few fixations. The most recent one is machines. He will talk endlessly about machines, and all the moving parts - pistons, valves etc. He bores us senseless, and does not notice if we're looking fed up with it. He gets so much pleasure from drawing machines, building machines from boxes, etc and talking about them that we let him get on with it. He can obsess all he likes at home. It's when it inteferes with school it's a problem.

At school, he is allowed a small amount of time out each day to indulge in his obsession - draw a machine, etc. That seems to keep him happy and he will do the work required of him as long as he gets his fix at some point during the day! :)