Why don't you allow grown up siblings to feel out the survey?
it always irritates me when someone ssays what I'm feeling based on their observations of me, because 9 times out of ten they're completely wrong. So i don't cry when someone dies - that doesn't mean I'm not upset they die, as I'm frequently told it does. Just as my saying "oh" and not saying 'congratulations" in no way means I'm not proud of someone elses accomplishment