"technically"

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I am going to scream the next time I hear this word. This is usually followed by some random technical jargon that he made up and conflicts. I'm at the end of my rope in this area. Any suggestions?

Well technically speaking..........lol sorry I couldn't help myself.

I can't really help because I used to get that one to and it drove me crazy. Thank goodness he has moved on now but it took months and months.

As long as he isn't making your repeat it back or testing you on it you can nod and tune it out. My son knows I do this but he has accepted that his need to talk is stronger than his need to be heard and so it's the compromise. When it's really important to him that I listen he will tell me that he is going to quiz me on it later. And he usually does

And, yes, he is also discovering that his memory of the facts isn't always as accurate as he thought.

We've had a lot of talks over the years along the lines of "I know you find all that interesting but it just isn't my priority right now" or "I can't keep these types of details in my head and with the internet there really isn't any good reason I need to" or "its great that you like to think about these things but the truth is I'm just not interested in them the same way you are."

We also used a hand signal for a while when he was first practicing pragmatic speech with his therapist. To let him know when he was talking on past the interest of his listener and/or starting to repeat.

Could you give some examples please, it sounds like he's not accurate from your post but I want to make sure. With your son its possible that precise language is required for effective communication. Me and my mum had an interesting one yesterday where she said "I see you've just eaten" and was actually asking if I wanted dinner. Naturally that didn't work out

Yeah you need to deal with your anger, I suggest doing some martial arts.

If you really want to break him of a word habit, point out when the word was unnecessary or when he uses the word in an incorrect way. If you pay attention, you'll catch him. I used to say "basically" when trying to explain things. A co-worker pointed out that my explanations were always anything but basic.

No real advice for you because I'm going through the same thing. My son's new word is "well..actually" and then he says what he needs to say. I would just ignore it.

Yes, my sons say "Actually..." and then proceed to correct the person speaking on some minor point. Usually it is because the speaker wasn't using very literal language, i.e. an exaggeration or figure of speech. We have had many talks recently on why this doesn't go over so well, if the person you are correcting is an authority figure (parent/teacher), or if the point is very inconsequential to the gist of the conversation. And I am sure we will continue to have many more talks about this in future too!

I just have to chuckle here as my boys love to say Technically, or actually too. Whats even funnier is when they do it to each other. They always get along best when there talking to each other like that lol.

I just ignore it. It's not something that really bothers me. I would rather work on a bigger issue and I don't feel like I have to change all of their aspieness, just the most important ones. Like recognizing and handling their emotions better so they can cope. Now thats a big one to me.

I know I'm not a parent and this is parents forum, I had to reply to this.

"technically" and "actually" are both my favourite words. I'm so pedantic I correct people on trivial things but to me they are important, when my mum starts singing I always stop her "actually, the lyircs go like this..."