new aspie parent with a few questions

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I was going to say something similar to ster. In the end, he's your son and you're a parent - everything else is details. Something to remember is that if you're stressed, he'll be stressed, so try to relax and keep perspective.

Apart from that, I agree with the velcro idea.

Good luck.

thanks im feeling much better ive thought about what everyone has posted and have had many intresting convos through this forum i appreciate everyones help and i feel that i am not alone any longer thanks so much again you guys you made me feel that this is ok and that my son and i will learn together and follow our routines to grow together.

My girl cannot tie her shoes and can't ride a bike; she gets so frustrated.

She was also very late in potty-training.

my daughter, age 7 & undx'd at the moment, can tie her shoes but with extreme difficulty....she can ride a bike, but, again, extremely wobbly....she refuses to wear pants with buttons or zippers as she has a difficult time buttoning and zippering...with the trend now of kids wearing jeans and khaki's her pickiness on clothing has become quite difficult~for now, it's alot of dresses

Do as much as you can with the food now. The longer any state of affairs is allowed to go on the harder it will be to deal with it later.

My son's school aide (I think she must be a witch!) gets him to eat fruit. I would have sworn blind it couldn't be done.

Things will settle down once all the routines kick in and there will be peace and happiness. Just make sure that it's peace and happiness where your child eats fruit rather than peace and happiness where your child eats chocolate cake all day long!

Elisha:
If I had it to do again (my kid is 17, nearly 18, and he's a pretty neat guy), I would have bought loafers (velcro is okay too), and decided that I'd intervene if he was hurting me, my wife, or someone else. Best advice I can give in hindsight....BACK OFF....especially, back off being hard on yourself. Routines help....and sometimes they don't. Lists help, and sometimes they don't. Drugs help, and sometimes they hurt. Tantrums always need an audience, or they are useless....and eye contact isn't that important. I'm sorry, I'm aspi myself, and I had trouble with that issue, until people learned that I was listening to them, that I could get A's on tests without taking notes, while staring out the window....and a whole bunch of other things that we as parents worry about. Deal with the kid, not the diagnosis. Make it clear that it is the behavior that isn't acceptable, not the kid. He knows what's happening, believe me, I did. I just had really smart parents. I didn't do as well as they did with me with my kid, but I don't think we broke him.
Good Luck

thanks beentheredonethat