Question for parents, how to leave your AS child behind...

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I would like to know your opinion.

I have AS. I am 36 years old. Single. Living on my own. Europe. I was raised by two caring parents. After a childhood with visible but undiagnosed handicaps I was diagnosed with Aspergers Syndrome only months ago.
These days my parents are very important to me, not only as they know me better than anyone else, and they give me support to survive in this world, but they are also friends of mine.

I worry often of what will become of me when my parents will be gone. Will I be strong enough to survive in this NT world? I have mixed feelings about it. On one hand I trust that I will be able to survice, with the help of some friends and my sister. On the other hand I am very scared I might fall into a black hole and that I will not be able to manage in this NT world.

I have spoken about my worries with my parents. That was very emotional. They are elderly, but healty. I know my mum worries much about my future, how I would be able to find my way..
The support my parents have given me so far, being the persons that know me best, can not be replaced by others.

I often worry about my mum's worry. I can not assure her that I will be ok in future, but ofcourse I will try.
It makes me so sad to think about these things, but I want to be prepared for the future. And I would like to give my parents support so that they should not be so worried about me. I want to relief their pain.

Your comment is very welcome. Thank you! *waves*

Hey hon, you kind of talked about that in this other forum:

http://www.wrongplanet.net/asperger.htm ... ic&t=15591

Yes that is true, but I want to get two types of answers:

The reactions of the people who have Aspergers themselves
and the reactions of the parents with children with Asperger

I did not mean to post double posts

You're almost 40 living on your own, so hopefully you'll be able to take good care of yourself when that time comes.
Thinking about it now is good, prepares you so it dosen't come as a chock.

If you're very dependant on your parents try to become more independant.

My mom died when I was 24, my father a year later, I was close to my mom but never to my dad. I didn't get much support from either. It's tough to manage so much on your own, but it can be done. I'm 46 now.

There will be a great sorrow when they go, hopefully one at the time, but it is also a fine experience to lose somebody - how odd that might sound. Take your time to grieve, you'll come closer to your sister, and hopefully you'll come out on top.

There is a new life waiting for you when they die, you just have to see it.
If it doesn't break you it'll make you stronger.

around here they have estate planning sessions for parents who are concerned about what will happen to their kids once they've gone.....