stimming and obsessions

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Ediself, I so feel your pain!! ! It is hard to have an AS child and be AS yourself, even though sometimes it has its benefits... I do bond with my daughter over a lot of the same obsessions like maps and nutrition, but she has ADHD and I don't, and her energy level EXHAUSTS me. I am also a single working parent (I am engaged but only see my partner on weekends, and have no child support most of the time from my ex).

I am SO auditorily sensitive and she doesn't know how to control her voice volume or stop talking. She talks and vocalizes incessantly and it literally gives me a headache. Also she has no sense of physical boundaries, and will often grab and paw me a lot which I hate. I love her and do cuddle with her a great deal, am super affectionate with her, but I really have a lot of touch and sound aversions (I was also disabled for a couple of years with fibromyalgia which makes all that sensitivity even worse) even with my loved ones. Once she yelled in my ear by accident and it upset me so much I nearly passed out. It is awful, I love her so much but my sensitivities are so intense. (My partner is very affectionate too, and I've had to teach her that just because I hate being touched in some ways/parts of my body doesn't mean that I am being cold... just excruciatingly sensitive to touch).

The movements do drive me nuts too. She (daughter) constantly pulls on her hair until her curls straighten, bounces up and down, fidgets, paces back and forth etc and it makes me batty!

I feel bad always telling her to stop moving, don't touch me, lower her voice, etc. I explain to her that I love her very much but am sensitive, and that she sometimes has a hard time knowing how loud her voice is and that's OK but we need to work on it so others will feel more comfortable. She gets it, sort of... but a lot of the time, when I explain things she just spaces out.

oh, Saraji, we are living the same kind of lives the spacing out when you explain something really annoys me too, i tend to repeat again and again and every time i repeat he spaces out a bit more
i've made him a playroom , filled with floor cushions etc, until we get that trampoline
but he still is very loud