Mom and Dad not Mommy and Daddy

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Ranting about it on a forum won't change it, and anyway, they're entitled to call their parents what they want, whether or not you approve.

Also, I think you'll find that "cool" is generally defined by what the majority do, so if the majority call their parents mummy and daddy, then it is indeed cool.

I'm a punchy mood so I've just got to say it and I hope no one takes offense: Pandora's Box, who would have know you would be opening such a "Pandora's Box" posting what you probably thought was a simple concept, eh? 3 pages!

you stop stimming(permanently) and i'll tell my kids not to call me mommy. because i find stimming annoying when i see people doing it. or hear them doing it, as the case may be for you.

i don't feel the need to force my relationship with either my kids or my parents to be 'cool' or 'professional'. you obviously have no kids and if you do you should get them into counselling ASAP. i call my dad daddy still and i will forever. because dad is so formal and stuffy. i don't care if i'm 6 or 36. i will still run up to my dad and give him a smooch on the cheek when i haven't seen him in a long time. and i will yell "DADDY!!" too. so what. it's just showing affection to someone i love. it's unfortunate that your parents deprived you of that but don't force their mistaken views onto others just because you adopted them. my kids are not 'growing adults' either. they are my babies and i do a pretty dang good job being their mommy. like others have said, anyone who knows anything about raising kids knows that it's sooooo important to pick your battles so what would be the reason behind forcing the child to take a step away from you in the relationship? kids do that on their own, no need to push them.

TBH although I did find Pandora's Box original post really offensive as it directly described my daughter, and I was shocked to find the first instance of someone describing her speech patterns as ret*d as coming from someone else with Aspergers, I've sort of gotten over it a little bit. I still think it was not a nice thing to do to post in the parents section and criticise, but from reading your posts, it just seems likes a rule you learnt from your parents when you were young. I think all of us (NT or otherwise) can internalise these sorts of things and make them into overall commandments to the point that when they are broken we get grumpy. So I can understand more where you are coming from Pandora's Box although I still don't agree.

I think in general its very easy to criticise parents and I was certainly a lot more critical as a non parent than after I became one! Even as a mum of a baby I was much critical of toddler parenting than when I actually came to it myself. Now I just offer support because it's bloody hard work.

I called my parents mommy and daddy till I was 10 or so, but it bugged my father because I was too old. This confused me because I could find no logical reason why it was OK to call them one thing at 9 and not OK to do so at 10. It still meant the same thing, so why bother over what word to use. I didn't understand things like that till I was much older. This is an issue that parents should decide for themselves about their own kids. I wouldn't expect people to make their kids call them differently because it annoys random strangers.

You can't simulatenously assert that "Mommy" and "Daddy" are childish terms and then acknowledge that many teenagers and even adults do it.

That's contradictory.

In any case,

Stop b!tching about something so inconsequential.

If you're going to work yourself into a tantrum over every verbal eccentricity that annoys you in life,
you're going to wind up hugging yourself in a padded room.

What a ridiculous thing for the OP to get worked up about!

I have to laugh at the bit about it being "unprofessional" as I have a cousin who is in her late forties, has a very senior, very responsible and extremely well paid job with a multi-national company and ... has always and will always refer to her parents as mummy and daddy. People who really are professional know what matters and what doesn't. What individuals, of whatever age, choose to call their parents doesn't and shouldn't matter to anyone else.

I also found the use of the word "ret*d" to be inappropriate and jarring, especially on this forum.

I wish my son would call my mommy, or even mom. He addresses everyone in an overly formal way. He is 5 and he calls me "mother". He only resorted to mother, because I told him to stop calling me by my first and last name every time he addressed me. It was driving me crazy! He calls his friends by their full names too. Even adds the middle name if he knows it. I still think it sounds weird to always hear him say "mother" all the time.

I appreciate the apology.

My 52 year old friend calls her parents Mommy and Daddy. I find it endearing. I call mine Roberta and Walter. I wonder what one makes of that?

MommyJones

That depends. On if their names are, actually Roberta and Walter ... or Dick and Jane

They are Roberta and Walter...but I like your choices better.

I agree with you There plenty of things and people that get on my last nerve and would love to express my displeasure to them but I don't. There's a very simple reason for it, my Mama and Daddy raised me this way.

I live in and was raised in the South. Yes I've traveled to other states and get funny looks if my parents are with me and they hear this 53 year old man ask his Mama a question or tell his Daddy " I love you Daddy". You know what? I don't care what they think. It is how I was raised and in our family it is respectful.

I would venture to guess ( actually I know for a fact ) you will get funny looks from people in the Southern States if they hear you say Mom or Dad. Not because we think your being disrespectful but because we know ya ain't from around these parts here. Kinda like if you ask for a cold glass of tea and then say "With sugar" trust me we gunna know ya ain't from around here. What you won't get is someone being so rude as to tell you how you asked for it is wrong and must be changed. No Ma'am what you going to get is a nice cold glass of a Sweet Tea and a big smile to boot.

One of my pet peeves is people calling others ret*d.

Says you.

Please provide me with a valid reason why your opinion on this matter would be any more important or valid than anyone else's? You do realize that this is a matter of opinion, don't you? And that it reflects very personal feelings and beliefs. And that not everyone will share the same feelings and beliefs as you do, right?

My pet peeve is intolerance. It makes me want to scratch my eyes out. Especially when it is driven by ego-centrism or ignorance. But, by all means, continue on...I wouldn't dream of telling you what choices to make with your life.

My mother pretty much insisted I stop calling her "Mommy," and call her "Mother" or "Mom" or whatever at about my son's age. She probably thought it mattered how it looked. I called my dad, "Daddy" forever and he was fine with it.

My son is very rigid so I doubt he is going to change what he calls us anytime soon. I could not care less and he is so far away from social expectations on everything else, that it does not even matter, either.

Everybody should call his/her parents what he/she wants as long as it is mutually acceptable.

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