liloleme wrote:
The Special Ed teacher actually told you that Autism is not a developmental delay??? What a moron!! !
Have you guys tried weighted vests with him? Not going to cure him but it make make him feel more secure. Sometimes the violence can be brought on by the anxiety. Weve talked (and even argued) before and I told you about my son who was early onset Bi Polar and had a lot of the same issues. I also have a friend who is raising her sister in laws sons. The mother was using drugs while pregnant with him and he has a lot of these issues as well. Its really hard to get a clear diagnosis and he probably does have co morbid issues. I also do not know the laws in Canada but he should not be kicked out of school even if there is some sort of mental illness....he does have the autism diagnosis so they should be working with you on both counts, not against you.
Put him in an institution??? shesh, what year are these people living in?
I have to give you a lot of credit because your post seem so much better than the ones you put up before. You really sound like you are advocating for him so Im really glad about that. Im sure this is really hard and I really wish these people who are supposed to be helping us with our kids get better educated not only on Autism but also on mental illness. People dont handle mental illness in children very well and they still look at the parents as if it must be their fault. I think he needs some very aggressive Occupational Therapy and he needs an aide with him who can handle his outbursts and meltdowns. Like I said, I dont know the laws there but I should think there are ways of scaring these people and it looks like you have found some....sometimes it comes down to that, too bad it does. When we first moved here to France we got to the point where we had to threaten these people to turn them into handicap services as both my kids have their diagnosis and we also threatened to call media in on it. Its funny how fast you get services when you get nasty isnt it? Even when we lived in the US our therapy center would always tell me that I had to be a "squeaky wheel".
he has a weighted vest which i made for him but he doesn't like wearing it and refuses to put it on at all for the school.
and thank you for noticing the changes i've been trying to make. it has been a frustrating road, i tell ya. i still have a long way to go but i find i'm much more patient with him now and i have pretty much decided i don't care what his father thinks and i will just ignore how he treats him and treat him my own way. he still seems to hate me most of the time and has all the same behaviour problems pretty much. i just chose to detach myself from that somewhat so that i don't get upset about it anymore, ignore what i can and deal with what is dangerous. i find it really irritating that people don't know anything about autism or about mental health issues in kids. especially with the proffesionals who deal with it on a daily basis. i am just trying to open whatever doors i can for him to help him progress at this time. right now he's in a school environment where he could learn if he chose to but he fights it and he refuses to even try to do the work. he needs to be taught a different way. we had him off his meds for a while after a health scare and i realized when he went back on them how much worse it could actually be than how it is and am greatful for the progress we have made so far. he is also getting older and time is going by fast. it's hard to beleive he is 6 and my other kids are getting so big. i don't want to waste all of our time upset and struggling with this, i want them to have happy memories of their years with us.
this summer should be interesting. we are moving to a new house, in a new city and new schools for all the kids...yikes. i will update when i find out if he qualifies for the special ed school or not.
13 Jun 2011, 9:25 pm
