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midnightblue
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29 Mar 2012, 5:32 am

As in, I'm not sure whether to say anything to the doctor about it, he's only three and his nursery don't have any problems with him (although he is obnoxiously well behaved there!) I'm not even sure if he is or not but I don't want him to struggle at school etc. if he is. With two parents on the spectrum it seems inevitable, but I'm not sure I can actually cope with the heartbreak of watching him have the same social struggles as his father and I did/do *sigh*

This appears to be more of a ramble than anything else!

Basically: What am I looking out for? What do I do about a diagnosis? How do I protect him from the big, bad world?

His father and I are both undiagnosed, I don't see the point in trying to get one as it won't change anything (or will it?)

I don't know, I'm just rambling along!



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29 Mar 2012, 7:18 am

I have a 3 year old that 3 weeks ago was evaluated and either has autistic traits or is on the spectrum somewhere (still not sure what it all means). I had him evaluated by the school district (I am in the USA) and the benefit of having him evaluated is that he is now qualifies for therapies that I would ordinarliy have to pay out of pocket. I am not worried about him being labled right now, I just want him to get all he can get to prepare him for life.

I hope you are worrying for nothing and that you baby is just an obedient boy. :D



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29 Mar 2012, 9:15 am

MomofThree1975 wrote:
I have a 3 year old that 3 weeks ago was evaluated and either has autistic traits or is on the spectrum somewhere (still not sure what it all means). I had him evaluated by the school district (I am in the USA) and the benefit of having him evaluated is that he is now qualifies for therapies that I would ordinarliy have to pay out of pocket. I am not worried about him being labled right now, I just want him to get all he can get to prepare him for life.

I hope you are worrying for nothing and that you baby is just an obedient boy. :D


Oh he's far from obedient at home! Just a little angel at nursery!

I may chat to the health visiting team about it, I've just been talking to a friend whose little boy has been diagnosed with autism and there are a lot of similarities. If it means he will get more help then I can't complain.



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29 Mar 2012, 10:39 am

Does he have any particular behaviours or difficulties which are a potential cause for concern?



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29 Mar 2012, 10:43 am

midnightblue wrote:
As in, I'm not sure whether to say anything to the doctor about it, he's only three and his nursery don't have any problems with him (although he is obnoxiously well behaved there!) I'm not even sure if he is or not but I don't want him to struggle at school etc. if he is. With two parents on the spectrum it seems inevitable, but I'm not sure I can actually cope with the heartbreak of watching him have the same social struggles as his father and I did/do *sigh*

This appears to be more of a ramble than anything else!

Basically: What am I looking out for? What do I do about a diagnosis? How do I protect him from the big, bad world?

His father and I are both undiagnosed, I don't see the point in trying to get one as it won't change anything (or will it?)

I don't know, I'm just rambling along!


Well you can't really protect him from the big bad world...and if you do and then he's on his own when he grows up how's he going to have any coping skills?.......I mean I can understand why you feel the want to do that, but I think it would be better to maybe think about things that might have helped you as a child...I mean I think its better to try and teach him skills that will help him cope with the 'big, bad world.' rather then trying to hide him from it as long as possible.


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30 Mar 2012, 8:08 am

http://www.freevideosforautistickids.com/Home_Page.html

There is a whole lot of information of my free website, and there are lots of links to resources. A diagnosis might be prudent at some point, especially if you want to consider early intervention programs or want to have him screened for concerns that could cause difficulty once he starts school. Also, any intervention done usually works better if it is done early.


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