does anyone else go through this

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My 9 year old aspie daughter is constantly wanting to go over to the houses of our family friends to play with their teenagers. And I have a hard time explaining to her why they don't want to play with her (age difference, etc.) But, every day it starts all over. To her, as she puts it, "That's not a good reason". At first, I would just tell her that she couldn't ask them and distract her with something else, but now that she's older I have been letting her try, and watching how dissappointed she is every single time. The truth is that the teenagers in question don't really like her very much, they think she is a brat, because of the fits etc. and even though i've tried to explain to them her differences and how to handle them, they are of course teenagers and just don't want to be bothered with it.
Will she ever move on from this? OR is it always going to be like that movie, "50 first dates".
We are definately going to try and get her to go to law school.

...that she looks upto the teen kids of your friends and wants play with them and do what they are doing.

it must be painful for you to see her rejected so often. i guess her fitting and their thinking that she is a brat probably exagerates matters. is there any chance you could bribe one of them to teach her a game or help her with her home work (if she has a any) for half an hour a week. That way she does get a little bit of human interaction.

you see, lots of us do not notice that we are being rejected until a later age and when we do realise, that is when we withdraw. it is good that she wants to interact.

Z, our 10yr old Aspy, always had trouble with children his own age, but got along well with younger and older kids as well as adults. Does your daughter have an IEP in place, and if so is it hekping her with social interaction with her age peers? As much as I fume at social critiqueing our kids I do feel learning how to navigate our social structure is important for our AS kids. Z just told me tonight that he got alook at his GT report for this 9-week session, under interacts well with others his teacher had put an E for exceeds expectations, he is more excited about than he is straight A's academically.

Are the teens you speak of in their early or late teens? Sepia made an excellent suggestion about getting an older child to work with your daughter. I would add that an early teen or even 11 or 12 yr old might be your best bet. Maybe a "Mother's helper" or "Parent's aide" as it would allow you to be incinspicuously near in case you need to intervene to help your aide learn how to deal with your child.