RE: Kids w/ Classic Autism, PDD-NOS & Speech Delays

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No, or if it affected me I was inactive through it and never knew. I think the time limit on how long you have to edit posts is unacceptable. I didn't consent to having my real age made public, I think that's a violation of my privacy. Not sure if they adjusted it a little bit but I wore sunglasses to cope the first few times I saw the new color scheme, if they did it's still not great, it looks like it's shimmering to me. I know there are workarounds but I shouldn't need to use them on a site that's supposed to be for people who are more likely to have those sorts of issues. I reported a necropost and instead of asking the necroposter to start their own thread the moderator somehow managed to make two truncated copies of the thread - so there's three of them now.... I haven't noticed any improvements. I think my diagnosis may have been changed on my profile from "other autism spectrum disorder" to "Have Aspergers-Diagnosed" .... there are other things as well.

Your sarcasm aside, in labeling me a "cricket tragedy", I don't think traditions *alone* made the game a "gentlemen's game", but also personality traits.

An a@@hole like Chappell is an a@sshole, regardless of where you put him - on the field, in the commentator's box, or even in the toilet. He is just an abusive, aggressive jerk. Was it any wonder then that a thug like him would rapidly cause the game to become just another form of street-fighting ? In contrast, Michael Holding came across as a very dignified fellow, despite his obviously aggressive bowling attack on the field. I liked how he approached commentary with the same quiet self-assuredness that he approached his aggressive fast bowling with ("Whispering Death", ).

I doubt that Holding or Big Bird or Andy Roberts or Walsh (my personal favourite of all time) would have ever resorted to sledging. I believe the practice is more likely to be engaged in by hyenas, rather than by lions. A thug is a thug, and a gentleman is a gentleman.

And, of course, this practice is widespread now because once one team indulges in verbal picketing of their opposition, the opposition wants to get their own back. So, I am not saying that *only* the Aussies were the thugs out there. I am fully aware of the verbal duels that erupted on the field between arch-rivals Bangladesh and India (where insults about each others' mothers and sisters were freely traded) and the way the Proteas' captain and the Black Caps' captain had to swear before their semi-final clash that they wouldn't indulge in anything similar to what transpired between them at Dhaka in 2011.

The fear of heavy fines don't seem to bother the bad-asses anymore, including widespread condemnation of bringing disrepute to the game. Just watch - by the time 2025 rolls around, it'll probably be very hard to figure out if you're watching cricket or American football. There'll be no more rule of "hands and mouths to self" or "quiet mouths" and "hands only for batting or bowling or fielding".

And I'll bet that Chappell's boys will be leading the pack there, too.

You're right in one respect -- I am a cricket tragedy, just like your old man.

Rant over. You may freely chirp in with your sarcasm commentary, CyberDad.

Posting this here as well, in case it is helpful - a visual/icon database of nouns: https://thenounproject.com/

Does anyone else feel temptation to give your kid (your speech delayed kid) whatever they ask for when they ASK?

I am struggling with this because my 13 year old has been asking (mostly VERBALLY!! !) for things a lot lately (this is new for us), which is obviously great. But sometimes I shouldn't or can't give him what he asks for, and then I worry that if I don't, he'll think this talking business doesn't work, and stop doing it. I want him to know that talking is good, so I feel like I have to reward any talking by giving him what he asked for. Is that crazy? Does anyone else feel this way? How do you find a happy medium and stop worrying so much?!?!?!

While I know and respect where momsparky and CD are coming from, it is my humble opinion that things like "discipline" and "limits" should take a backseat if they will deter a non-verbal child from being motivated to use speech.

I feel that this is a matter of priorities - while most parents with neurotypical children do discipline and impose limits routinely while parenting their offspring, I don't believe that those "norms" apply to a child who is not NT.

My son is completely non-verbal, and yes, he has limits and knows that he cannot have everything that he brings me or points to.

BUT... BUT, when the blessed day that he discovers his voice comes around, and the blessed moment he actually uses that voice dawns, all discipline and limits (with the exception of any that will endanger his life & safety and those of others around him) will go out the door. And they will stay gone for as long as it takes him to become a fluent and fluid speaker. That's me and my priorities.

YMMV.

Good luck !