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I'm on board! When do we leave? I don't want my lighted torch to run out!

Ranting is encouraged. It can include exaggeration to illustrate a point.

No solution giving is allowed unless specifically requested.

Supportive booing at other people's schools / relatives is allowed.

ajsj you are doing a fantastic job with your step-son. His biol mom sounds selfish and lazy. Booo

Make her drive all the way.

Smelena

I double boo bio mom!

Is your aspie step son up to a bus ride? Maybe that would help him see her more? She should foot the bill though! I think 6 hours on a bus over 4 days would be too hard on him, but may just one way? Although if you don't think he is up to it, don't subject himself to it.

I am so sick of dealing with Education QLD and my son's school!

"of course we can set up small groups for teaching social skills...only it's been over a year and we haven't"

"no no it's not possible to fund extra aide time....except that we can when the school teacher requests it rather than you"

"your input is important...bt we'll just lie about the start time of the IEP meeting and tell the teacher you couldn't come until later so that we can make all the decisions without you to annoy us!"

"yes we will consider very carefully which class your kid goes into....how about we pick the teacher that openly tells all class parents that special needs kids should not be in state schools and spends the year blaming you for your son's behaviour, fast forward a year and we'll give you a teacher who has never had an ASD child in the classroom, as an added bonus we will make sure not to give her any information about your child and wont give her professional developement until after she's had a breakdown!"

"of course we'll get in some specialists to give us suggestions on what to do...but we'll just ignore all of them when they say "suspension does not work and is actually making it worse" because hey! We obviously know better than all these experts. Just to prove it we'll suspend him the first week back of the new school year!! !"



oh yeah, they get no love from me!! !

And in the land of Tony Attwood, too... Triple boo on your son's school!

mmm good question-you'd have to pry me away from my mother she loves me (and I think is starting to get me)

and I'm not a handful-just a vegetarian

My in-laws have accepted the AS diagnosis of my 2 sons just fine. They are step-grandchildren. When I mentioned that my daughter, their biological grandchild, has ADD it was a different story. No way their genes could be involved in that!!
My 3 sons' biological father refuses to accept the dx for S and T2. He says I just looked up a condition on the internet and decided they must have that and then located a psychiatrist and therapist that would agree with me. Yep!! I have that much time on my hands!!

I'm a vegetarian too!

A member of the mungbean mafia!

It sounds like our kids are at the same school.

Education QLD is p*ssing me off big time!

Promises made and not kept Grrrrrrrrrrrr.

My son goes to Tony Attwood's clinc. The psychologist was shocked at the minimal input my son was being given. Grrrrrrrrrr.

we went there for a while last year, they were fabby!

I know ours was upset by the school responce to advice

OOH! We forgot to rant at how awful to navigate and confusing the ed QLD website is. Finding the right information on there is more luck than anything else!! !

rock on

Here's my latest rant .... and I do want to know if I'm overreacting.

My MIL has been a total cow over the last few weeks - saying Asperger's is due to lack of discipline and child trying to get 'out of activities' he doesn't like.

My husband bought her a mother's day present, but didn't buy me one because 'I'm not his mother'

After the year we've had! I've been running around to get diagnosis (husband wasn't even going to attend appointments until I chucked a wobbly). I've been fighting the school. I've been taking son to psychology appointments. I've been homeschooling him 1/week.

I'm happy to do all these things because I love my son and want the best for him.

But a bit of acknowledgement from husband would have been nice.

I don't want anything expensive ... just a bunch of flowers - even picked out of the garden would have been nice.

I think I'm so infuriated because he phoned his mum, asked her what she wanted, did a special trip to store to buy her present, and a special trip to her house today to give her present.

Smelena

Wierdly enough my fiance who is not my son's biological father also has Aperger's.

I find that stuff like Mother's day requires scripting as much as anything else. He obviously knows what to do for his mum, you just have to let him know an equal effort is required for you.

I heard Tony Attwood on the radio the other day discribing the difference between partners in terms of their need for affection and attention. An aspie's need is like a cup, easily filled whereas an NT's need is more like a bucket (Personally the joke in our house is that mine is more equivalent to the atlantic ocean but you get the idea ) the point is that Aspie partners generally wont automatically get that your need is different or in this case, that you really do require a bit of attention on Mother's day!

We've had mothers days like yours in the past, for my DF I started off by giving a list of suggestions and he could pick from that. Now he has stuff he KNOWS I will like so he doesn't have to stress himself silly trying to guess what to do. He is an immesely kind person, he just isn't always that great at thinking of this kind of stuff himself but oddly after I gave him a list to work from he got much much better at figuring out what kind of things he could do that would make me feel special an has on occasion been amazingly inventive

Thanks Kissindra. I'll have to remember to tell him 1 week before Mother's Day every year.

I'm over my 'tantrum' and we've actually had a nice day.

My dad was like that, I really think he was an Aspie. Every year we would go to his mothers house (who my mom hated) and he would buy her a little something, never anything for my mother. My mom could never understand why she had to sacrifice her mothers day every year for his mother!

My husband is horrible with things like Mothers day too! I told him two weeks ago and have reminded him nearly every day that I want a Rhododendron fro my garden, that’s it, they are not even very expensive. Today I am rhododendronless. He will tell me some lame excuse like "oh, I had not opportunity yesterday since you where with me" or "I bought you that ceiling fan yesterday ($30.00) I thought that is what you wanted instead!

One thing that bugs me now is that he will pull out all the stops for his mother, $75.00 flower bouquets that he sends, this year it is a digital photo frame, but he is reluctant to even help my put a card in the mail for my mother!

My DH being a NT male (no offence), has to be told what I want for gifts, Christmas, Birthday, Anniversary, Mother's Day, etc... This year I told him that I wanted a nice rose bush. He couldn't find one, I can understand that. But, as a consolation gift he put the tract lite up in the closet (btw he was going to have to do this any how)

I just chock it up to that defunct male gene I just wish he knew how to be creative with gift giving.