Aspie/ASD* 7 year old, no iep or 504, bullied relentlessly

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I know it's easier said than done for many reasons, but that school sounds like a hell hole. I would do anything possible to avoid sending my kids to a school where they were treated that way whether that meant open enrolling, private school, or even moving. School and peer relationships are tremendously important developmentally.

Your absolutely right. His old school, only had 150 students, smaller classrooms and tons of counselors so he was "almost" thriving. I have been on this current school since the day he started, there is no way I'd have let this go on a year, I would have definitely pulled him were it not for summer break.

So today (last day of school) they let me sign a consent to evaluate with no resistance after a conversation with the local IDEA "lead" I told them I had a 7 page complaint and was going to court. Problem is the evaluation process wont start until school begins which means he would have to to go to a regular classroom until the evaluation process is done. I cannot let that happen, so I will still end up in court. A little research and I found out that kids with speech disorders, and severe sensory disorders are EXEMPT from the RTI as they need immediate help.

The assistant principal has been making it seem like I'm overprotective and he is a "mamas boy"(not in those exacct words), she said he needs to build a "tolerance" for the name calling and noise on the playground. The school counselor, at the same meeting, told my son he needs to work on saying "sorry" when he bumps into people (after I already told her its been like this for years). How can a child with any "disability" thrive in a school that thinks this way?????? So its not just for my son, but for the other kids who are not getting the help they need.

Oh and part of the behavior "intervention" plan was for the school psychologist to give him a talk "every" morning to help with his social skills. She was supposed to start Monday but my son said she hadn't. So I called her this morning and asked her if she had seen him and she said no because the class was away the 2 times she went to see him, if they really cared about him they would have checked on him. A hour later is when she called me to tell me to come in and sign the evaluation paperwork.

That's just frustrating BS. I wonder what the assistant principal's tolerance for being called such names is. I would be severely tempted to test it if I were in your shoes....

I think it might not be bad to at least look at moving somewhere else. If there is not a different school he can go to where you live that might be better fit for his needs...than my honest opinion is you should look into moving, maybe before doing so look into some different schools to get an idea of places to possibly move.

I mean I am not there I don't see the entire situation, but from the sound of it this school will only do him more harm than good...seems like none of the other kids even like him, and the teachers/staff and everyone think he's just a difficult problem they'd rather not have to deal with. I just don't see things improving with this school.

I know moving is a huge change, and might feel like running away...but sometimes a fresh start can really be helpful. I mean is there anything specific that ties you to living where you are like being near family or a great job ect?

I mean you can try and sue and keep trying to advocate for him and demand better accommodations at his current school, and maybe someday you will 'win' those legal type battles...but in the meantime your sons mental-health will only suffer. So may not be worth it, a fresh start could be much more effective.