I'm just so tired, as I'm sure most of you parents are

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Yes, good marks in school aren't the be-all-and-end-all of life. I might point out as an Aspie myself, that I would get very upset if I failed anything or even was told I was wrong.

Actually, I'm still like that now.

Earlier this year, my 7 year old son's teacher was not taking his AS seriously.

I remember thinking .... have a good meltdown my boy, that'll make her pay attention.

He picked up my thoughts and had a beauty of a meltdown at school.

Hey presto .......... IEP followed to the letter!

Helen

Yep! Sometimes a good meltdown can be very helpful. I'm even considering having one myself, just to keep in practice.

Yeah, we should have a mini-course here on how to keep your meltdown skills up to a high level. Useful skill to have in so many instances!

Kris

I need to say something to all of you parents here at Wrong Planet:

Thank you for being reasonable, caring, knowledgeable, and loving people to your kids, and to express that here so that even those of us who didn't have that growing up know that much of the next generation of AS folks will be good people with some self esteem.

I have been out in the Blogosphere dealing with some not so reasonable folks, and this place is home--a safe harbor.

Everyone--good luck in getting the withit teachers and the supportive admins your kiddos need.

Much metta, Rjaye

Thanks Rjaye. Just the sort of them we love to hear!

I have so much hope for my 3 sons - they've been born at at time of increasing recognition. Plus they've been born in the right city - Brisbane, home of Tony Attwood.

I sometimes wonder how people with Asperger's from decades ago coped.

Helen

Sounds like you truly care about understanding and meeting your child's special needs. That's beautiful as far as I am concerned. I wish I had parents like that - I may have had a lot less problems. I bet a lot of Aspies and Auties feel the same way.

At times it can be tiring, some days more than others. I wish you the best!

I get very tired too. Just looking around at all the stuff strewn around the house... it's like fighting to swim against a big wave of water. I get one pile put away and 5 more pop up out of nowhere !

Now that my Aspie son is in first grade, the paperwork from school (PTA, school functions, fund raisers, homework, etc) is getting more and more. You should see our kitchen table. Piles of paperwork , some that needs to be filed, some that needs to be trashed, some that needs to be put somewhere where I'll remember to turn it in..., etc etc.

I only get 4 hours of time to myself (all to myself) per week, and guess what I do with it... I fill it with appointments, laundry, dishes, and all sorts of errands .

CALGON .... TAKE ME AWAY ! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !!

Your describing my life! My kids are such slobs. When I read stereotypes of Aspies/Auties being obsessed with cleanliness I shake my head and wonder why my boys missed out on this!

My older 2 have been diagnosed with Asperger's and go to therapy weekly. The therapy homework adds to the school homework (though I've told the teachers that therapy homework is more important and if school homework doesn't get done too bad, non-negotiable, stick your homework where the sun don't shine if you don't like it! )

My third son is showing signs of Asperger's and I've had 'the talk' from daycare. But right now I can't cope with going through a third son being diagnosed this year. The Paediatrician appointment, the Psychologist appointments etc etc

I'm going to see how I feel in about a month - but right now, I just don't have the energy to face it.

We're off for a nice family holiday to the beach next week. I'm looking forward to time off with the family, away from the house (and housework).

Helen

Here's a article written by a child with asperger's and it's written for the parents having autistic kids.May be chould help:
http://www.autism-world.com/index.php/2 ... th-autism/

God bless you~!

Kris,

I feel for you. My son is 24, and I experienced some of the issues you discussed.

I love my wonderful son, who is a successful software developer in the defense industry.

He got terrible grades in school. He made it through college, and excels in his career.

I think I did good job as a mom in most regards, but it is hard to know when to keep pushing and when to step back. There are things about our kids that we can't help or change. There are other things that we can help them with, and should spend our energy on. The problem is, I can't always tell which is which. I'm sure I spent a lot of time on trying to help my son overcome futile things, and I am sure I have given up on some things that I should not have.


Meanwhile, we are human. We have needs. Other people in our lives have needs, too. Where does the energy come from to be the parent an AS child needs, and still have something left over for spouses and other kids (and maybe ourselves)?

Keep loving!

Jackie

"I've compiled a lengthy list of behaviors we've been dealing with and all of the sensory issues she has. I'm bringing the list with me to the evaluation."

Psychs LOVE this sort of stuff! Be prepared to not get a firm diagnosis on the first day....and then be prepared for a variety of diagnoses. Be a smart consumer and do your research....and remember - it's your job to be the parent, their job to be the doctor.

Spoken from lessons learned the hard way.

Speaking of education, wouldn't it be great if there were teachers specifically trained to teach aspies?


Connie

I remember one time when Daniel was five (he's 11 now) getting angry with him and saying "Why does everything with you have to be so difficult?????"

I now have a much better understanding of what was going on back then.....he was just now diagnosed as having aspergers. It does get exhausting at times, but I sure do love his perspective on things.

Connie

I just realized I cut and pasted something from one topic to this one. That's what I get for getting up too early and getting on the computer before I've had my coffee!