Im really not sure where to start, today my 15 year old stepdaughter stated to her mum that she was sexually assaulted by a female when she was maybe around 7-8 years old.
Although this is the same day she has recently established contact back with a girl at school who was most certainly abused in the past and is connected to the story.
The stories my step-daugther tell are inconsistent with what the mother/my partner correlates, as my step- daughter says it happend multiple times at that household/place but the mum only ever remembers her going over there once and was removed from that place after telling her mum she witnessed porn being played on the tv while she was there hence the ban.
Our daughter has been very open with her feelings in the past and what happens to her at daily school and in life, examples are when she learnt to masturbate and felt horribly ashamed until her mum reassured that this was normal for her age, also bullying, peer pressure, death threats, depression, suicidal thoughts.
She has never been afraid to talk to us apart from when she was soft dating a guy that lasted a few days then admitted she dated then got dumped within a week
One part of me completely believes this has happened , but one part of me feels that she is using her imaginary to connect with this girl and bond with her for friendship as she has no friends (i feel awful for saying that but i have to believe what my partner has told me, as she has great doubts, and the stories just don't add up).
If this sexual abuse has happend we cant do anything as it happend so long ago and that person was under the age of prosecution.
She did in the past have an abusive biological father who locked her in a cupboard mutltiple times but weve only heard about the confinement and nothing more from therapists, has she repressed memories and then got triggered by this girl as its possible she was abused there but confused things or places and thats where the sexual abuse happend??
I have no real concrete clue.
Were so lost as there isnt any legal recourse or much to do, she is still very herself and happy, but when the no friends/i hate school attitude comes in she spirals into depression which I don't blame her as the funding for special needs schools in our area is abysmal, she is on a seperate frankly piss poor "copy paste" learning plan in an NT school not meant for her and she is not considered "special" enough for one to one mentorship.
Essentially shes in a middling limbo where the government and the schools are no help, and she will be lucky to even get an E grade in most of her classes, we are enrolling her vocationally at a college when she graduates out of the secondary school.
04 Dec 2024, 8:44 pm
