Daughter and Older Guy

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PizzaWithFries, I think would help if you could clarify a few points. As you can see from the responses, what you wrote about what happened has been read different ways, with the reader filling in the unclear parts based on their own experiences and assumptions. We do know the situation has you worried, and it would also help to clarify which aspects of the situation are causing the concern, if you wish to have more appropriate responses.

A general comment, for some of the other readers here -

Being a parent is a frightening responsibility. The minute you become pregnant you feel the weight of it, as you must consider the safety of the fetus with everything you consume. Birth brings it home even harder. The baby is so helpless. Worrying about "getting it right" starts immediately. I remember crying so many tears over some of the early things that weren't going right. I say this because some readers here don't have children of their own, and remain tied up in the errors they believe their own parent's made, and focus on their own sense of powerlessness from those years, assuming that the parents must have felt the opposite. But it doesn't work that way. Parents feel responsible for their children from day 1, and it never ends. I remember my mom telling me once that her favorite part about me going off to college was that she no longer knew what I was supposed to be doing every minute of every day - I was not coming home to her house - and she could finally stop worrying about me every minute of every day. She needed that break more than I needed to stretch my wings, I think. I will never forget waking up one night to notice lights on in the house, then finding my mother in the living room a complete wreck. She was pale, sickly, and crying. Why? My sister wasn't home yet, 2 hours past when she had told my mom she would be. I vowed then never, ever to do that to my mother. It's such a simple solution, just give a later time. And stick to it.