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Kiley
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06 Jul 2010, 3:14 pm

I remember when Eldest was diagnosed, I realized that there were a whole bunch of things I just had to let go. He just was never going to be quick (his cognitive processing speed is severely impaired), and I wasn't a bad mom who couldn't teach her children social skills. Instead we've focused on all the things he's really good at like his incredible spacial reasoning ability, kind heart and many other gifts. Self awareness is a wonderful thing.



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06 Jul 2010, 10:04 pm

Kiley wrote:
I remember when Eldest was diagnosed, I realized that there were a whole bunch of things I just had to let go. He just was never going to be quick (his cognitive processing speed is severely impaired), and I wasn't a bad mom who couldn't teach her children social skills. Instead we've focused on all the things he's really good at like his incredible spacial reasoning ability, kind heart and many other gifts. Self awareness is a wonderful thing.


It took me too long to stop looking at what I am not good at but to acknowledge what I am good at. I learned not tolook so hard at my flaws everyone has them. So I look at what I can do.



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08 Jul 2010, 4:17 am

My (maybe AS) husband needs more processing time when people speak to him. The words seem to arrive at his mind all at once, in a scramble, and he has to decode them and make sense of them. If part of your problem understanding what your aunt says is that you need more processing time, you could explain that to her.

If I want to say something important to my husband I often write it down. That helps me get the words right, and it helps him understand what I am saying. He understands the written word much better than the spoken word. If you are like that, maybe your aunt could write things down.

Good luck!



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08 Jul 2010, 6:19 pm

redwulf25_ci wrote:
DW_a_mom wrote:
It is frustrating to have communication difficulties with anyone. So, yes, a parent can get aggrevated when trying to explain a concept to a child that the child just isn't getting.


It can be just a frustrating on our end too.


My son definitely gets frustrated when I don't understand him. He often just refuses to say anything more.


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10 Jul 2010, 3:10 am

Written woods are so much easier to understand. Yeah my processing speed is slow. And then it takes me awhile to put what I want to say. even if I say something hours later I find out that's not what I wanted to say and I know what I want to say hours later. Also, for me words get lost, because I have auditory processing disorder. So I get some words, or just nothing makes sense. And sometimes. I don't even know why.