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09 Mar 2010, 2:02 pm

I think age at which we start speaking is consistently delayed. Or we start speaking, then stop, and then start for good.

Universal? Any exceptions?



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09 Mar 2010, 2:10 pm

omicron wrote:
I think age at which we start speaking is consistently delayed. Or we start speaking, then stop, and then start for good.

Universal? Any exceptions?


Traditionally the speech thing has been used to delineate between Aspergers and High Functioning Autism.

No speech delay = Aspergers
A speech delay = High Functioning Autism

New diagnostic guidelines may change this, but will continue to include recognition that one can be on the spectrum without a speech delay.

My AS son had no speech delays of any sort.


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09 Mar 2010, 2:49 pm

I wouldn't worry about it... it may simply be that your son is bright, and a little anxious in a learning environment. Or maybe he's those things and on the spectrum as well.

I just wanted to say I'm a little surprised that you told your son off for the way in which he spoke.

"I'm parched, can I have some water please." There's absolutely nothing wrong with that. If you put pressure on him to self monitor before he speaks in order to sound "normal" that can only cause him anxiety. He's obviously a bright and verbal boy... why chastise him for that?



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20 Mar 2010, 9:23 pm

sounds to me like he has AS and you and your son are lucky someone is willing to do an assessment no one ever suggested it to me or my mum whilst I was in school and my childhood was miserable as a result. If he assessed as AS like others have said there is nothing wrong with that with help and kindness your son will do fine.



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20 Mar 2010, 11:43 pm

Also... please don't tell your son to dumb himself down, just to sound like his peers. Parched is a MUCH more emotive word than thirsy :wink:


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21 Mar 2010, 10:01 am

jen81 wrote:
I have a nine year old son who does pretty well in school.


ESPECIALLY in lower grades, that is not uncommon!

jen81 wrote:
Are there kids with AS who don't seem different?


YEP!

jen81 wrote:
Her reasonings are that my son has problems yelling out answers in class and following directions. He's also a bit socially akward and expects everyone to play by the rules and get's upset easily if they don't.


All common with AS.

jen81 wrote:
He doesn't seem to make friends as easily as the rest of kids


One criteria for AS

jen81 wrote:
but he has a good group of friends.


Doesn't exclude him, ESPECIALLY if they are old friends. Apparently, many problems of this nature start around 6!

jen81 wrote:
I also just read that people with AS have ocd type issues.


YEP.

jen81 wrote:
My son use to have a problem with constantly rubbing his lips. He would rub them till they became red and inflamed. He felt that he had to lick them. At the time I thought it was him having dry lips, but now i'm questioning that. He also will occasionally "twitch" his nose as well. He will also say "um" alot....while reading in school, but weirdly enough that's only at school?


Not that unusual. The rubbing, licking, twitching could be for OTHER things. Saying UM is COMMON FOR ALL! It is ESPECIALLY prevalent when an answer is required, there are distrations, or there is stress, So it happening more often at school is understandable.

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Three days ago I was sitting in the car and my son states "i'm parched can i have some water" i told him to say drink that it's normal for his age...He always uses words that are unnecessary ....I just read that it's typical for kids with AS to do this....He quotes funny things on tv and loves them and get's the funny part of it.


Yep, common for AS and SO WHAT? If the school demands that he only say things a certain way, they aren't much of a school.

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What i;'m not sure is if the teachers taking my son's past in to consideration...he witnessed a very bad thing a few years back and it did affect him....idk what do you all think


So you think one incident a few years back should affect how you view all future actions, etc? Hey, he wants fairness, has his own idiosyncrasies, and says things his own way. GREAT! The social problems might be bad, but you can't simply say you viewed him as different a few years back so that isn't him. Besides, a few years earlier he might as well have not even been human! Back then, friendships were VERY different.