I won't be visiting the parenting forum, anymore.

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I have emotional flashbacks, about my childhood. This is the best that I can elaborate. I make up comlpexes after I have those flashbacks. I have this complex, or that complex. Elaborating is not my strong point, so I apologize if this isn't a good enough answer.

I was having a bad time, yesterday morning. I've decided to keep posting here. Being here will toughen me up, a little. I'll get to give advice, at the same time. It's just that I've told a few parents, that autism isn't the end of the world, and that might not be the way that they see it, instead of giving my usual welcome, in the Getting to Know You forum, and than they see me drumming through this forum, making a racket about my childhood and adolescence, when they think that they've gotten rid of me, but I'm in a much better place, now and I will keep posting here.

I can still post here. I just needed to tone it down, a little.

it may not be the end of THE world, but it can certainly feel to some like the end of THEIR world. it can mean an end to the world they are used to or were expecting, the world of playdates and birthday parties, and an introduction into therapies and learning methods to manage behavior. some go through a grieving process just like with any huge life change.

yes its a message we all need to hear, but depending where you are on the journey, it may not be well received. and speaking from my own experience, the aspies i know generally give opinion/information like this with a little less tact than i am used to =P that doesnt help reception any =)

i really do appreciate hearing first hand accounts from members here, including CockneyRebel. it can help us understand the aspies around us better. i have surely gotten a lot of good information from listening to those posting here.

if aspies feel like they are from a world different than the nt world, then its understandable that parents of aspies can feel trapped between the two worlds. for the majority of us, its an unfamiliar place we never expected to be, and can take some getting used to.

I never thought my son was strange but as a baby he wouldn’t make eye contact, started speaking late and played among other children not with. He now makes eye contact and with speech therapy doing better there and interacting well with other children. But there are still little quirks that we are working on, but I never thought it was the end of the world.
I am grateful to have found this site and forum and to be able to find advice from an aspie so I know what my son is experiencing, so I am glad you have decided to stay.

CR, I had a feeling you wouldn't be gone long, but I kept my mouth shut (didn't write about it that is) out of respect...welcome back

CR--

I didn't say anything either, because I didn't want to be inconsiderate if you were feeling badly when you read certain posts here.

But... now that you decided to continue to participate........

YEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

By all means take care of yourself, too! If you start to take someone's post personally, take a break...and come back if and when you're ready.

I just can't tell you how much I appreciate being able to ask questions of and be in communication with autistic adults.

It's AWESOME. So so helpful !

As long as we all respect each other's opinions, I encourage you and everybody else to speak freely and not tone it down. That's what it means to be a part of a board in my opinion. Free flowing communication, with the risk of putting ideas out there that others will debate.

You are one of my very favorites on this forum. I would hate to see you go, so I'm glad you're back

Oh YAY! So happy you decided to stay, CR. I always appreciate reading your perspective on things; it really helps tremendously to understand what may be going on in my son's mind!

Oh this is sad, I am new here and it is the input from not only the other parents, but especially the older ASD teens/adults that I am craving. You guys can help parents like me, with ASD kids that are not able, either because of age, non verbal or not having the ability to communicate feelings themselves, understand my angels and give in site into possibilities of issues! And I really do love a little bit of a rebellious adittude too!

I am glad you have decided to stay!