Some parenting questions please?

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In my opinion only parents, or adults at the very least, should post in the parents forum.

A tremendous amount of helpful insight can be learned from younger folk. I'd hate to lose such a valuable resource. If you don't wish to learn what younger people have to say, then don't read it, but why would you want to shut the doors on the learning process?

I didn't say that younger people have nothing valuable to say, or that I wasn't interested in their thoughts.
I only said that the parents forum should remain, as its name suggests, a forum for parents.

Respectfully, I also disagree - the main reason I am here and not on an only-for-parents forum is because I learn so much from the people on the spectrum that post here, children or not; infinitely more than I've learned from "professionals," and even more than from other parents. I also find that as I practice communicating with the kids here, I am learning more about how to communicate with my own son.

Speaking as a parent, I don't feel a need for "parent only" space here in the same way I might as, say, a woman.

Willaful & Momsparky - you both say you find no need for a parents' forum, yet you are posting in a PARENTS' FORUM.
I am merely saying that it is easier to find the types of information and discussions one is seeking when everyone respects the purposes of the various forums. What is so objectionable about that? I feel that you either don't understand what I'm saying, or you don't grasp the concept of forums.

To quote what I just said: "I don't feel a need for "parent only" space". So it sounds to me like you didn't understand what *I* said. To make it clearer, I feel no need to keep the parent forum one in which only parents are intended to post. As mamasparky commented, posts from non-parents add to the level of knowledge and experience here. As one of the parents who uses this forum, I think I'm entitled to my vote.

What you said originally was "In my opinion only parents, or adults at the very least, should post in the parents forum."

What part of that didn't I understand?

Yeah, everyone should just post everywhere....I'm off to post in the Kid's Crater.
(No, not really.)

i don't get it...her questions were about parenting. they belong in the parenting section, am i right?
it's like we suddently decided only NTs post here, only AS post in AS discussions, etc. discrimination is just revolting, she is not trying to pass for what she is not and is asking some parents questions about parenting.....that seems logical!
i'm missing something here i think.....why....why not? if she wants to learn?? what kind of a parent doesn't want to pass on some knowledge?

Kids Crater description: "A place just for you kids! "

Parents forum description: "This forum is for discussing the various issues related to parenting children with Asperger's Syndrome and Autism."

The few times I've seen things in the parenting forum that clearly didn't belong here, the moderators moved them.

What is this about NTs post one place and AS another?? Holy cow, your comments no longer even REMOTELY resemble anything that I said. Wow.

Rynessa - if you find Zelda's questions off topic the simplest thing to do is to not read her posts. Most folks who come to this board understand that she's not the Mom in the family but I for one think it is excellent that she comes here to try and gain insight. Same for other non-parent adults and teens who post here. We may not always like some of the way things are said but for the most part, it is really valuable information. Take what you like and leave the rest.

It would be simpler not to read her posts if they were not in the wrong forum.

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I'm sorry you feel that way. If the parent board is the wrong forum to talk about my little sisters behaviors where should I post about my little sisters issues? I've questioned the 8 year old of being on the Spectrum if not she does have a learning disability and seem less mature than the 10 year old. As someone else said NO I'm not the mom but as a concerned older sister I dislike seeing what my little sisters go through at times. Since I know some of the parents here have NT children as well as AS (or on the spectrum at least) They can in turn give me insight into there behavior and there different parenting techniques. Also surely some parents here have multiple children all the better different age groups etc. I don't want to frequent a parent forum only since I'd feel out of place and while YES you are strangers I enjoy your insights and feel like I "know" you guys. I tried surfing a Universities Psychology board and got laughed at. I'm glad I found a few WP members to chat up Psychology with. I'm sorry you feel my questions are out of place I don't mean to upset or offend anybody.

I take it all back. The OP is at least capable of a reasoned response, rather than half-cocked attacks.
As I originally stated, I just think it's easier for everyone to find the advice and/or discussions they are seeking when people post in the correct forums. Imagine that; I'm an Aspie who likes clearly defined rules. Shocking.
Since I can see that there may not BE a more appropriate forum for zeldapsychology, perhaps a short sentence or two at the start of her posts explaining her general situation for those not already familiar with it? Or is that suggestion going to set everyone off, too?

The first sentence of her post did just exactly that. In her first sentence she states that the following post is not specifically about children with AS but is a question for parents in general.

I think it was perfectly appropriate. She put this explanation at the beginning of her post. It was a post about parenting in general so this board is the most appropriate place for it. Insisting that only AS children may be discussed shuts out AS parents who have an NT child. Insisting that only parents should post shuts out AS posters with no children but relevent insights based on their own childhoods. Really the only rule needed is that discussions be about the raising of children. Zeldapsychology stuck to that rule and what followed was a reasonable discussion about safe guidelines for sleepovers.

edited to add: the best book I have read on parenting an autistic child was written by a person with no kids who posts frequently in this forum. The poster's name is Tracker and the book (pdf file, actually) is linked in his website www.ASDstuff.com. Thank goodness there is no rule that only parents can post in the parenting forum because otherwise I would never have read his book/file and neither would a lot of other parent posters here.