28 Jun 2006, 9:32 pm
i think one of the most difficult things to overcome as a parent of an aspie is the awkward embarassment that comes initially with the people who stare at you and your child and say things like~ just give him a good whallop~ then he'll stop....or even better~ don't you know how to raise your child ? 
29 Jun 2006, 4:38 pm
30 Jun 2006, 4:21 am
30 Jun 2006, 7:58 am
30 Jun 2006, 1:43 pm
ster wrote:
i think one of the most difficult things to overcome as a parent of an aspie is the awkward embarassment that comes initially with the people who stare at you and your child and say things like~ just give him a good whallop~ then he'll stop....or even better~ don't you know how to raise your child ?
To which I answered (one very stressed and exhausting day) no, but I'll just stand here and watch you show me how to do better. As she approached my son, mid-meltdown, and put her face right up to his (which was turned down of course) I could see it coming and could hardly hold it in. As he let out another holler when she said "hey sweety what's....." and the word wrong never made it out because she was being pelted with his tears and snot and trying to avoid his swinging arms. And I continued to direct my still crying son into the car while smiling and saying "thanks, we'll have to try that again some time" as she was rummaging for tissues....and suddenly my day wasn't so bad after all. At least I wasn't a blithering idiot.
I've gotten really good at giving the stare right back. We've had child services called on us twice now. One time when I was trying to keep my son from getting run over in a parking lot (a child who btw is taller than me and who could easily overpower me if he chose to at age 11) by some "good samaritan" who felt I was hurting his hand. I'd like the chance to let my son hold the good samaritan's hand. LOL Fortunately CPS now knows us well, and knows our son, and so we don't hear from them anymore.
30 Jun 2006, 2:33 pm
