Son touching himself

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I did the same thing when I was little. I used to love touching myself down there and then sniffing my finger and I couldn't understand why it was so wrong. It was my bottom. Then I started to try and hide it and still get caught. I was made to wash my finger every time.

I eventually outgrew it. But then when I got pubic hair, I used to twirl and play with it and mom said that was normal and she used to do the same but I remember her slapping my hand when she saw me doing it. I was 12 then or 13 shortly before moving to Montana. I also used to play with my boobs and still do. I hear that's normal and lot of women do it. They just do it in private like I do.

This also reminds me of the time when I was seven, I was at gymnastics and my panties kept sticking to my bottom. It was very uncomfortable so I kept sticking my hands down there to get it away and then when it stick again, I put my hands down there again. My mom was not happy with me and I remember telling her my underwear kept sticking to me. I also think sensory issues can cause inappropriate self touching or inappropriate things. I used to pull my dress up to get my pantyhose back up because I didn't like my skin touching each other right below my pelvis. I remember being told to go to the bathroom and do it but it felt so uncomfortable. I realize now it may have been sensory issues and I thought other people just tolerated it than I did.

I find it interesting how people will blame anything on AS when normal kids do it too.

liloleme,

Yeah, males can't really do that. I bet we all wish we could though. And SOME males may be uncomfortable, because of the way things lie. I had that problem. In retrospect, I guess mine was just larger than most. And walking may be WORSE, because it can lead to stimulation that makes it longer and harder. It is a shame, they have had maybe THOUSANDS of years to solve the problem. I bet they could make a kind of pocket, and solve the problem. But when something can change in size by several inches, you can imagine how things can change.

But I SWEAR, so many just DON'T understand. I have heard of girlfriends not liking the "fact" that their boyfriends are always thinking about sex, because they are hard. News for you. The fact that the guy is male, possibly mechanical stimulation, and anything that may remind him SUBconsciously that you are a pretty or nice female may make him hard EVEN if he isn't consciously thinking about sex AT ALL! Just TALKING to him, moving a certain way, saying some things, etc... could do it. At times, males have to try to KEEP from getting that way.

Steve

Thanks everyone for the advice and encouragement. I actually am a teacher and work at the same school although I'm on the high school end. It was pretty shocking to find out about the teacher reacting that way, particularly since she is the school counselor. I never thought about having someone come talk to the teachers, but it might be a good idea to have my son's counselor (who specializes in kids with ASD) talk to them. He has gotten somewhat better about it since we talk about private/public areas every morning before he goes to class, and his teacher reminds him periodically throughout the day. I'm trying the stress ball this week to see how that goes. Thanks again for all the wonderful advice! I am so glad I found this site!

Just one other thing.. check out his underpants to see if there are any seams which are in that area? That could be part of it. I remember my son and the terrible trouble we had finding socks for him without the seam in the toe area, and which weren't too tight at the top. Those 2 areas of sock discomfort could cause a meltdown just before we left home or on the way to school. This wasn't just an issue for my son on the spectrum. My second youngest had to be checked every morning for underpants. He hated wearing them at all! We fixed that by getting him into boxer shorts. These discussions with you guys with younger kids is reminding me of so many little things from when mine were little. It's great!

When my son was doing that at school in second grade, they taped a piece of textured cloth (like corduroy) under his desk for him to rub and I guess that helped.

He is twelve now and sometimes has itching ('tween boys and bathing . . . ) and sometimes he has problems with his skin getting a bit sweaty and things sticking together uncomfortably. Snugger tighty whities seem (counter-intuitively) to help because they keep things in place a bit better.

He would sort of do lunging squats to get things loosened up and that looked conspicuously weird.