I'm a homeschooler so this is not helpful - just a reaction. They didn't even tell her the original meeting was an IEP meeting. How horrible it that? And they are making her do all this while she is sick? They have no decency at all. I would have said no to the original meeting once I walked in. It is no IEP meeting if the key player, the parent, doesn't even know it's supposed to be one. I would have said, sorry folks, start over when you can at least give me the correct topic of discussion.