Hi Misstippy,
I also have a 5 yr old boy. He has SIDS which probably comes from Aspergers in my family.
He struggled to find playmates when he was younger and I have really had to do some research to try to understand how kids play together so I could teach him appropriate social behavior.
It's not easy for me as I do not have a great deal of social experience myself but my son is fitting in much better now.
This does not sound like the other 2 boys are playing a game. I sounds like they are bullying and excluding him possibly because he doesn't understand their social codes. I know that social behavior with kids as well as adults is filled with codes and signals and if a person does not adhere to the accepted social behavior they will be ignored or bullied.
I have had these problems due to possible Aspergers and the only way I have been able to get social acceptance has been by learning the codes and behaviors Neurotypicals need. The same is true for my son. I have had to find a way to teach him the social codes that he has to follow before other Neurotypical kids will open the door to friendship
I know there is a computerized teaching program called Secret Agent Society that uses computer simulated kids for social roleplaying.
There is a series of free teaching dvds on Wrong Planet done by Alex Plank to role play teach social skills to adults. They are very good. There is also an article on appropriate eye contact for adults
perhaps there is something on Wrong Planet for social training for small kids. If not, perhaps something can be created?
There is also something called social interpreters mentioned on wrong planet.
I'm not sure what they are but it sounds interesting.
Also, in some other countries they have students training to work with kids who "shadow' kids with social problems at their preschool to try to determine where the problem is and how to help.
Have you tried the google search on wrong planet just to see what comes up?
Good Luck
Hope you find some answers soon.
14 Sep 2011, 8:54 am
