How do you manage to keep your marriage together?

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Truth is a good thing to have and can save time and misunderstandings, in new and old relationships. Our daughter and son will soon be dx with as we believe with Aspergers. Our daughters boyfriend has a stepfather who hasn't been told about his Aspergers and that made for some misunderstandings, and although he has been dx his mother is in denial and thinks it is something he will grow out of and he should be like all the other young men his age.
So in a relationship you should have honesty and plenty of information handy for the new partner/husband/wife.
My husband also has Aspergers but I still have to give him respect as a man even when he has just behaved like a four year old having a tantrum.
I take time to listen to his worries and reasure him, give him the time he needs to re-adjust to new situations etc.
I would think the same would be for a new boyfriend, husband, partner who is NT and has just learnt that the woman/man they love has an autistic child. They need to know the truth and have time to re-adjust their thinking etc.

Jennyfoo - reading your post was like reading my story! Hubby and I met on New Years and married in April, we've been together 12 1/2 years now. When our son was born (he was my 3rd, DH first) I knew something was different about him but since he seemed more and more like his dad I just assumed he was his daddy's boy. Boy is he! Found out they are both on the spectrum last year which was quite a surprise, but really answered so many questions and has made our marriage better.

I'm alot like DH (although I'm NT) in that I don't care at all for social situations, don't make friends at all, and am pretty socially uncomfortable.

We adopted my bio granddaughter who is our biggest challenge - she's an uber-NT pink-frilly everything girl!! LOL

I couldn't imagine stepping into this family, but I surely could never imagine stepping out of it!