other people just don't get it

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Snpeden: yes! Now that sound like what he tries to tell me, and I see, only you are so much clearer. Now if the teacher's would just get it.

League girl: communication is a primary concern in our household. I think that's why DS does so well at home. We have worked so hard, and so has DS to learn how to cope/reduce anxiety, understand social interactions et cetera and so he usually does great. School is a whole different arena though.

My mother had to figure out how my brain works and she had to learn to see things from my point of view so she could work with me to get on the right path. She also had to find ways of telling me things. She also had to listen to me too and hear my perspective on things.

I think communication is the key, talking to the child to hear their point of view and then tell them the right point of view and explain things to them so they get it. Also telling them what the other person's intent was and what he or she meant.

I don't think lot of aspie kids had this growing up (who are now adults) because their parents had no idea so the kids grew up unhappy because they were misunderstood and called brats or lazy or selfish or being told they have tantrums when things don't go their way. If only their parents were smart enough to figure out their child processed information differently and saw things differently, their lives would have been easier because then they would be helping them and trying to explain things to them and talking to them instead about what happened than assuming. They would also know they should be more concrete when telling them things.


And it's funny because my brother also had difficultly with transition between activities and he isn't even on the spectrum but my mother still understood. So just imagine all the other kids out there who have aspie traits but are not on the spectrum so they continue getting punished for something they have troubles with because their parents do not understand?