Haircuts - Help!! !

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Many thanks for all the suggestions and comments. I've picked out a few that I will definitely try. Loved how they ran the gamut from "no haircuts" to "sedatives." It's nice to be able to review them all and decide what may work for our situation.

Thanks for reading!

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Last edited by CrazyCatLord on 19 Jan 2012, 7:37 pm, edited 1 time in total.

im not parent of course, but i can post here cause i dont like haircuts that much too


this is because they hurt, cause i feel it in my hair, and theres the noite too , but after some time im getting used to it, so that my aunt can cut it and i try not to cry, i can stand it now, even thou i don like it.

I feel for you. My 4 yr old daughter also hates haircuts, I plan to grow it out eventually but her hair is thick and curly and she also hates having it brushed, so we go through the battle every 6 weeks or so. Besides the head sensitivities, she's also really afraid of sissors so we've been focusing on working with getting her more comfortable with sissors in other settings hoping that once we concur that fear she'll be better with the cuts.

Oh, this is making me cringe more and more with every post. I remember how I was "encouraged" to conform to the distant and mystical state of Normal. I generally choose to disregard those memories because they only depress me. I was never good enough, always wrong, even when I was really right. I was punished for not being ladylike enough, or for having the right answer too many times, asking too many questions or knowing too much.

The more I read, the more I'm glad my mother never had the option for a "reason" to drug me. When doctors did decide to drug me at 34, I lost my ability to function, completely until I stopped the drugs. It would have made my childhood a sad and empty wasteland. Instead, my mother and I were forced to work harder at my acceptance. I don't fault her; she did what she knew and didn't cram me into a mold as much as other parents of the time would have. I know she did the best she could, and then some. The greatest assaults happened at school or church, as did the greatest healing and opportunity - .

But I'm an extrovert and a girl. I think girls are better able to manage because girls, in general, have greater multi-tasking abilities. The boys I know who are aspies tend to be more single-minded (brilliantly so) than most men. It seems to make them socially awkward.

Does your son lack the ability to reason logically? What's his take on his hair?

forget the haircuts...give him a ponytail holder instead.

but if you must cut it, then I recomend seeing an autism specialist about desensitation therapy.

Jojo

Keep the sedatives for necessary and essential dental and medical treatments. I don't see haircuts as warranting sedation or physical restraint. Why not just let his hair grow?

We had a massive problem with this. He still does not like it at 6, when I wash his hair, though he reluctantly tolerates it, with a good amount of squirming, though. Some of this may not work for you because of his age, if nothing else.

I have worked for years on trying to desensitize him to having his hair touched. Luckily he was always a snuggly little guy, so when he would sit in my lap, I would gently play with his hair, just one lock of it. He was resistant at first, so I would back off, and then try again in a week, that kind of thing. Then when he was comfortable with that, play a little more with his hair, back off when necessary, etc. I would cut his hair myself in stages over a week, taking little snippets somewhat evenly, so it would not look too uneven.

Now I can brush it (I had to be very careful about picking a brush, and he still hates combs.) For the last year and a half we have gotten him to go to one of those children's places with the video games and books. He still hates it when she wets his hair (sometimes we let him skip that, though it isn't as even when we do that, and I usually have to fix it, later) and he hates the comb, especially since he tends to have a few tangles even with using a 2 in 1 shampoo conditioner due to his lack of love for the comb. (I think it hurts him)

So I think you can maybe work on some of the desensitizing at home, which is basically what we did. You'll be able to see how far he will let you go, which will be indicative of how uncomfortable it is for him. This way if you do need professional help, you can be very specific as to where the problems start.









(Our school district has a ridiculous (IMO also sexist) policy on hair length for boys, otherwise I would let it grow longer so he could get his haircut less frequently) I like long hair on guys, so it is a bummer, but that is just not the style here.