Eureka-C wrote:
Do you think that having meltdowns less often keeps your son from practicing the skills necessary when he does have a meltdown? Then they would be more intense, because he does not have the skills to cope with the overwhelming emotions/sensory.
I think it's kind of the opposite. I think that as his coping skills are increasing, he has fewer meltdowns because he's using his skills to prevent them. However, he is reaching the point of meltdown less often and waiting untill much more stressed before it starts. He WILL NOT (in caps because he's getting agitated as I start discussing) discuss any precursers. I do put on my sleuth hat and work backwards, and can see some building of stressors. My largest concern is that he can't and won't.
Thanks all for the lengthy and thoughtful responses. We had all of the knives locked up for probably about six months, and over time of DS doing better and better we became less and less diligent. I have moved that particular rake - but really, anything heavy can be a weapon, so I really need to get underneath the cause AND get more secure with how to manage assuming he's wanting to do damage.
Honestly, I'm thinking that some of it is hormonal - he is really needy with me and I'm sure as he is hitting the biological need for independence, he has internal conflict. In addition - he's "ratty" more often lately. he's usually a sweet and well mannered kid, I have been hearing "Oh my God" when I ask a question much more often lately.
27 Feb 2012, 2:07 pm
