15 yr old stepson with NVLD emailed bomb threat

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I had to search the web for NVLD. Here's a link to the Wikipedia Article:

Non-Verbal Learning Disorder

Just in case anyone else needs to know.

I don't know if he is bullied by the teachers or not. They will have a say on whether or not he returns to school. I think what the principal said is that it is also up to the other teachers. The decision on whether or not he returns. As I have never known anyone to do this - email a bomb threat - I really don't know what is normally done.

The one thing I have been wondering is...they sent out a letter telling the parents there had been a bomb threat emailed to the school. Then a couple weeks pass and my stepson is suspended. There were also police at the school as he was arrested but not held, just released to his parents. I don't know how none of this will leak out but if it does...the other parents might say something as it is a very expensive school and even if it were a public school, I am sure lots of parents won't feel comfortable knowing another student emailed a bomb threat to the school. He's still suspended, so the first hurdle will be seeing if they let him back him.

I used to be a teacher in Texas. Each school district in Texas has an Alternative Education Placement Center where a child can be removed to by law if they do certain actions. I taught at the alternative school in two separate school districts. The common action was for the student to be removed from their school and placed in the alternative school for a "terroristic threat." As this is considered a high level threat, they can be placed in the AEP no matter their diagnosis or special education status. We had several children with AS placed in our school for "terroristic threat." Most were only responding to bullying in the only last resort way they knew how. The AEP is not a good place for children who are prone to being bullied, stand out as different and do not understand social nuances. They typical AEP child may have a history in gangs, drugs, fighting, - there is a whole unspoken social code and hierarchy among these children and they do not respond well to those children who violate the code/hierarchy. If you have ever been around chickens, it reminds me of a chicken coop with an injured chicken. The other hens will just peck it to death. The principal at both schools I taught at would take special precautions to isolate the child with AS from the other children as part of the IEP if the parents informed and discussed it with the principal. Nevertheless, it was difficult and usually did not end well. While I am a believer in consequences, and i think your stepson really needs to understand how his actions affect others, I hope they do not place him in AEP.

The thought just occurred to me that maybe this was a cry for help? I mean he realize,s doesn't he, that there is no way his email could be anonymous? Its not like sticking a letter in the mail with no return address, the recipient of the email knows exactly who it came from instantly (unless he also happens to be a computer hacker and can somehow send email that isn't easily traced).

I know situations have occurred because of bullying. A situation I am not proud of, that sent me to a mental ward happened due to bullying. The principals and teachers never listened to me, they always gave me half ass "We're on your side if you're bullied come to us". Then the ten or students who bullied me would go against me and the principals and teachers took their side because there was one of me and ten of them. I threatened one day to my guidance counselor that I was going to kill them all. That I had already planned out how to do it and everything. I just really wanted to vent out my frustration, with a broken home situation and being bullied I was extremely frustrated and had no control nor recourse. But the guidance counselor, calls my 'rents and then they take me to an official psychologist whom sends me to a mental ward because they think I am disturbed. I was just a lonely kid, with no friends, I was frustrated, no one was listening to me, and I felt like I was going to explode. And that made things worse. Somehow it leaked to the school I was in a mental ward and when I came back the bullying just got worse. They called me psycho, etc. I was pulled from middle and continued my last year of middle and my final years of high school home schooled.

And then I had to deal with a situation with P-boy years ago when he wa 16 and was still in public school. Don't know what my parents were thinking. He got so frustrated and totally lost and destroyed the school library. He began taking books out of the shelves and throwing them all over the place. He really hated that high school. And he had once again no other recourse.

A lot of these issues occur because the kids themselves have no other recourse. They try to tell someone, people shrug them off. They try to express their frustrations, people just brush it off. Only when they escalate do people actually act upon it. But by then it's already to late. They didn't listen. It's a matter of recourse, without recourse dire situations can occur. It's the last rope they have before snapping. And sometimes snapping actually means a real bomb or real guns.

Well, it's official. He's been expelled. Pretty tough for 9th grade.

I am terrible sorry. It must fell terrible not being able to help? I am sure he would not really hurt anyone. Mainstream just does not understand how we feel.

I was also surprised but it's a 30k per year private school. I think private schools can do what they want. If other parents found out, and there were police at his school and then he was taken out and suspended, so it may have leaked out. Well, they probably think, well I'm paying over 100k for my kid's HS education and I don't want my kid going to school with someone making bomb threats. Parents who pay that much for school tend to be more vocal because they can be. His dad is meeting with the public school office this morning to see where he can be put.

Well he has zero experience with public school. He's never been. It may be worse as he'll be entering mid-year, he has problems socializing and he's very overweight. But better high school than middle school. I think by high school kids are not so mean.

as far as bullying, I really don't know. If he was being bullied I don't think he told anyone...