3 year old Aspie?

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I have been following the posts and learned some things I didn't know and wish I had maybe. Either way, so what if you have a diagnosis or not. My wife and I knew there was something different about our sons behavior from the time he entered pre-school. If you see some of the traits of autism and/or Aspergers get a book about helping kids with Aspergers and start working on "retraining" his brain in fun ways. We used Aspergers-What does it mean to me? by Catherine Flaherty. It may be too much for your 3 year old but you can take parts out of it. My son is now 14 and is quite well adjusted. We have always accepted his actions as his own and love his uniqueness. We just wanted to make sure that he was able to handle situations as he grew up and realize that he was a bit different from the other kids and why some of the kids didn't "understand" his ways. He has his spots still but realizes them and corrects his brain in most cases.

I know all kids are different and your situations may not be identical. I want to provide you with some comfort that it may not always be this way for you and even if he doesn't get diagnosed with AD or anything else you are able to assist him develop faster.

anon151 - is there anything in particular that you focused on when your son? My son is 3 and inthat "gray" area also. I like the idea of being able to teach him to think for himself and take responsibility for his actions.

Momof three-some of my focuses with my son include:

Sitting down and not moving around during a set activity (i.e. dinner, kids event)--or as my wife just told me, at the dentists office--although he didn't scream this time

Not repeating questions over and over

"Inside voice"--still does not know how to regulate his loud voice

Mom of Three - At three we still had not heard of Aspergers that was something that wasn't brought up until 1st grade and not truly diagnosed until 2nd or 3rd grade but at age three we tried to get him more involved when playing with other kids, he did a lot of parallel playing where he would be playing the same thing with other kids - just by himself and he really didn't care he was alone. I read books to him constantly, sometimes five or six in a sitting that had to do with feelings. For the most part we just accepted him as he was and as we saw traits that were "off" we tried to redirect them while explaining why we were changing his ways.

Not sure if all the book reading played a part in it but my son is very smart, he has not been able to be tested for reading since he was in 6th grade because he tested above high school reading level, he also has finished 12th in the city wide spelling bee that he would have won if the person reading the words enunciated better (I am not bitter, really. OK I am still bitter) He does well in most of his classes and would do better if the ones he does OK in if they interested him at all.

My main advise is to expose your son to everything you can, all situations, activities etc. If he does end up being diagnosed with Aspergers don't ever let the Aspergers be an excuse but don't force anything either. It is hard for me to know what actually goes on inside my sons head (or anybody else's) and I am in awe of some of the things he says because sometimes he views the world so much differently and seems to have a better grasp on things than I did at age 13.