momsparky wrote:
I'm lucky to have a very involved husband who helps as well; as I said, we came up with the video game thing as a team.
All people are different and have different needs - so, to offer a similar example, if you do everything your parents do they are early-morning person and you're a night owl, are you going to stumble around half-dazed all the time because you get up at 5am, or does the logic just apply when it's your preference? What about the differing sleep needs of kids and adults? I'm also not trying to pick on you; this type of logic comes up a lot here with teens and young adults with AS, whose perspective I value. I just want to point out that there's more than one way to look at it.
For instance, while there isn't necessarily an x minutes for x video game in real life, there will decidedly be an x minutes for x dollars, at least during the summers when he's old enough to work but still in school. People get paid by the hour, and even if they don't - they will have to pay for things by the hour like parking, babysitters, lawyers, etc. There is a value that's placed on time, and it's important to develop a sense of it. Otherwise, we don't plan out our whole lives to the minute - right now, this is the only timed thing we do.
Well, as far as times and things go. It's one thing if my mother or father to go to bed, I don't know, at 10, while saying I should go to bed at 8. Something like that. I'm sorta just bitter in general about my household as a kid, as it's been said "A house divided against itself cannot stand" and mine did not.
As far as my specific parent's case, my mother, she's only gotten worse with the bedtimes over the years, and in her case it was the cause of much ill health, not just mildly different "kids need 9 hours sleep, adults need 7" kinda thing. She's gotten absurd, she goes to bed at 5-7AM now and wakes up at 3-4PM. But I was away one summer, and got on a reasonable sleep schedule, go to bed midnightish, wake up 9ish, and got home and was waking up at that time, but my mom wasn't getting out of bed until 1, and I couldn't drive back then, so I just sat around the house doing nothing, so I ended up making my sleep schedule be more like my mothers, even though hers is a negative sleep schedule.
I guess as far as developing a sense of time, I don't know. Put that way it still makes more sense, but the whole thing seems gimmicky, but I guess even in that aspect consistency is still the key.
That all being said, things are different from when I was a kid, I don't know. My priest's son for example, he's learning Japanese off an iPad. Something like an iPad back when I was a kid would be like, unheard of, but every kid now has an ipad, iphone, etc, it's kinda crazy. I don't know really.
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21 Jul 2012, 7:49 pm
