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claudia
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14 Aug 2012, 4:46 pm

3RingCircus wrote:
Rewarding the child with food in order to keep them sitting on the toilet?
The forcing child to go X amounts of time without the food when siting on the toilet because child had an accident?

That whole method is setting a child up for failure long term.
There are SO many things WRONG with it, I won't bother getting into detail. In the end, it basically comes down to intimidation and training the child like an animal.


Anyways, J's peeing issue is not an accident.
J never wets his pants.
J takes OFF his pants, aims at specific objects.
I have been told by other parents of AS children to NOT use specific words when speaking about my child, such as SPITEFUL. Well, sorry, just because he has a disorder (or his brain functions differently than my own) does NOT mean he is not capable of such things as spite and I do not need to coddle him as if he could never be capable of doing such.
When J gets angry with me, he pees on things. J does not pee on things otherwise. That is spiteful. He does not need to potty learn again, he needs to correct his behavior (or some may look at it as replacing his poor behavior with something more appropriate.)

Don't use that tecnique, and don't feel offended. I wasn't forcing you to do that. Relax my fried. And, no, I'm not a children persecutor. Only if you don't know me in my real life you can thik this. I'm not going to explain why here because it's an useless effort.



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15 Aug 2012, 3:36 am

Still, the question is, do you think there is anything else that is involved that is making him stressful that contributes to the "spitefulness?" Is he having to deal with something new or stressful that may be impacting him.

In other words is there anything else going on other than just him not getting his way at that particular time? So we know if anything else needs to be addressed.

If not, then I would give him a time out and explain to him that it is OK to be angry about things, it is not OK to react by peeing on things. After his time out, try to give him options for what to do when he is angry in the future,

We are struggling with handling anger and upset in constructive ways, too, because my son does not understand. Sometimes I tell him what emotion he is experiencing (when I know) so that he can learn. It is hard!