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07 Jan 2013, 3:38 pm

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The issue with You Tube is that not everyone who posts vidoes on there are nice. My son can be watching a video of Mario Wii, and there will be cursing going on by the people playing the vidoe game. That is not appropriate language for a 7yo to hear IMO. Also, sometimes he watches what appears to be a "safe" video and it will turn into something else, something like mario pulling out macheine guns and blowing up other characters, etc...again, IMO not appropriate or antyhign I want my 7yo watch. Sometimes there are sexual themes in the videos, of course man made.

So, I make sure when he watches he is in the same room as me and supervised all the time! There is no other way, really. He is at the point now where he will pick up on what is good or not, and shut it before I even have to say anything. but in the beginning he would try and get away with watching things that I dont approve, and I explained that if I cant trust him that I would take You Tube privelages away. he gets that! Even though I am in the same room, you have to listen and watch whats on casue it might SOUND fine but be something visually imappropriate, or it might LOOK fine but there are curse words, etc...


I don't think cursing while playing a video game makes them not nice people. Some people just curse when they screw up. My dad always cursed when he worked and I grew up with such language. Mom just made it clear to us kids that we were not allowed to talk that way and those were grown up words. if we said a bad word, we would get our mouth slapped. I even curse when I die or mess up. But I don't think it means I am not a nice person because I cursed.


How about the video my son found of people dressed as Teletubbies walking through a public shopping mall grabbing their crotches and making lewd gestures. Are they nice people too?



I've grabbed my crotch out in public because something was bothering me inside there and I didn't like the feeling so I was trying to fix it. Plus how about when I had to go to the bathroom? Plus it was a horrible habit I had because of how I would sit and I would put my hand between my legs in front of my crotch so my mother always had to correct me. Does that mean I am not nice? I thought niceness is about how you treat people. Not how you act out in public or in a video or when you are alone. Time to use the dictionary again.


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07 Jan 2013, 3:52 pm

League_Girl wrote:
Washi wrote:
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League Girl,

The issue with You Tube is that not everyone who posts vidoes on there are nice. My son can be watching a video of Mario Wii, and there will be cursing going on by the people playing the vidoe game. That is not appropriate language for a 7yo to hear IMO. Also, sometimes he watches what appears to be a "safe" video and it will turn into something else, something like mario pulling out macheine guns and blowing up other characters, etc...again, IMO not appropriate or antyhign I want my 7yo watch. Sometimes there are sexual themes in the videos, of course man made.

So, I make sure when he watches he is in the same room as me and supervised all the time! There is no other way, really. He is at the point now where he will pick up on what is good or not, and shut it before I even have to say anything. but in the beginning he would try and get away with watching things that I dont approve, and I explained that if I cant trust him that I would take You Tube privelages away. he gets that! Even though I am in the same room, you have to listen and watch whats on casue it might SOUND fine but be something visually imappropriate, or it might LOOK fine but there are curse words, etc...


I don't think cursing while playing a video game makes them not nice people. Some people just curse when they screw up. My dad always cursed when he worked and I grew up with such language. Mom just made it clear to us kids that we were not allowed to talk that way and those were grown up words. if we said a bad word, we would get our mouth slapped. I even curse when I die or mess up. But I don't think it means I am not a nice person because I cursed.


How about the video my son found of people dressed as Teletubbies walking through a public shopping mall grabbing their crotches and making lewd gestures. Are they nice people too?



I've grabbed my crotch out in public because something was bothering me inside there and I didn't like the feeling so I was trying to fix it. Plus how about when I had to go to the bathroom? Plus it was a horrible habit I had because of how I would sit and I would put my hand between my legs in front of my crotch so my mother always had to correct me. Does that mean I am not nice? I thought niceness is about how you treat people. Not how you act out in public or in a video or when you are alone. Time to use the dictionary again.


Yes, please use the dictionary and look up the word "lewd". Someone who deliberately creates a lewd video with characters intended for small children and uploads it to YouTube knowing said children are going to find it and see it are not nice people with good intentions.
Edit: I can't believe I'm even having this conversation. I'm done with it.



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07 Jan 2013, 3:56 pm

The dictionary is an excellent idea!
http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/nice
Nice: pleasing, agreeable, delightful


Poor manners, foul language, and generally offensive behavior is not pleasing or agreeable, and are certainly not delightful. Using dictionary definitions, I think the OP was entirely accurate and appropriate in her language and phrasing.


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07 Jan 2013, 4:02 pm

Oh well, I guess I am not a nice person then. I was labeled as such in my childhood. Now all of a sudden people started telling me I am nice.


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07 Jan 2013, 4:08 pm

I don't think nice is a specific enough term to apply to an entire personality. We all have nice and not-nice moments, but individual moments can not be used to define an entire person.

I DO think the nice/not nice philosophic debate should get it's own thread if it is to be discussed further, though. =D

The Anti-Porn program I linked to earlier is my very best suggestion for the topic at hand, but with a teen and preteen this is certainly a topic of interest that I will continue to follow...and perhaps chime in on here and there. ;)


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07 Jan 2013, 5:08 pm

I should clarify, I sincerely dont know the character of the people making these vidoes, and they may be wonderful people, but that doesnt change the fact that I dont want my 7yo hearing mouthfuls of profanity when mario loses, etc...he already has a bad temper about losing and I could see him cursing up a storm if he were allowed to have free run of you tube.

I am also brought back to when he was 4 and LOVED to watch Wiggles videos on you tube. People would make mock videos, edit in and out of reg wiggles shows inappropriate things, nudity, profanity, etc...one time there were nude woman on the wiggles video he was watching. Seriously not something I want my young child watching.

Some of the mario videos are showing shooting, violence or other things I dont want my child to see. It NEEDS to be monitored when they are that young, they cannot know just by watching they need guidance.

If you are fine with your child wathching unsupervised, then thats great. But the OP asked about parental controls, and I am sure for a reason. If you are interested in parent controls, there are really no good ways to fully safeguard You Tube rather then being present and supervising sessioons while they are young.

Hope that helps the OP!


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08 Jan 2013, 4:31 pm

League_Girl wrote:
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League Girl,

The issue with You Tube is that not everyone who posts vidoes on there are nice. My son can be watching a video of Mario Wii, and there will be cursing going on by the people playing the vidoe game. That is not appropriate language for a 7yo to hear IMO. Also, sometimes he watches what appears to be a "safe" video and it will turn into something else, something like mario pulling out macheine guns and blowing up other characters, etc...again, IMO not appropriate or antyhign I want my 7yo watch. Sometimes there are sexual themes in the videos, of course man made.

So, I make sure when he watches he is in the same room as me and supervised all the time! There is no other way, really. He is at the point now where he will pick up on what is good or not, and shut it before I even have to say anything. but in the beginning he would try and get away with watching things that I dont approve, and I explained that if I cant trust him that I would take You Tube privelages away. he gets that! Even though I am in the same room, you have to listen and watch whats on casue it might SOUND fine but be something visually imappropriate, or it might LOOK fine but there are curse words, etc...


I don't think cursing while playing a video game makes them not nice people. Some people just curse when they screw up. My dad always cursed when he worked and I grew up with such language. Mom just made it clear to us kids that we were not allowed to talk that way and those were grown up words. if we said a bad word, we would get our mouth slapped. I even curse when I die or mess up. But I don't think it means I am not a nice person because I cursed.


It doesn't matter if they're "nice people" or not. That's not the issue. The issue is letting preschoolers watch that type of content.



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08 Jan 2013, 4:41 pm

As other have said, there are parental control devices on Windows and browsers. I personally like Net nanny and use it on our computers.

http://www.netnanny.com/