02 Feb 2007, 1:19 am
jaleb wrote:
... some of the incidents have evolved because they are playing dinosaur....
Sometimes I think boys need to be left to be boys. Does your son feel like he was bullied, or just had a bit of "rough and tumble"?
If its not a problem for him, it may not be a problem at all. Is he afraid of the other kid?
My boys may be something like your son's "friend". My oldest used to get hit and pushed by smaller kids a lot. He never retaliated (we frowned on any violent reaction). The outcome was he became a victim, even though he was physically big. He now gets told "don't be a victim - hit back - hard".
If the other kid is not being a bully, but just reacting, can the school do something to help reconcile things?
I remember son#1 and another kid that were "sparring" with eath other were required by the school to do a number of "random acts of kindness" for each other. They both hated it
but became friendly towards each other, if not friends.
02 Feb 2007, 9:03 am
jaleb wrote:
I have taken it up with school. I have talked to his special ed teacher about it and she has talked to the bus driver and the principal about it. He is not sitting with the same boy anymore and things have improved (some). The problem is my son is not 100% innocent, some of the incidents have evolved because they are playing dinosaur--my son's biggest obsession. One day when they were "clawing" at each other's eyes my son grabbed the other boy's glasses off his face. Another day he was spitting, on other kids and the seat and wouldn't stop when the driver told him to. The only reason they haven't kicked my son off the bus is because of his disability, so where some things have gotten better, others have gotten worse. But his behavior in general has been worse lately, I think he doesn't feel good (allergies, weather or something) and that has always caused behavior problems in the past. The funny thing is he kind of likes this other kid, but I believe it is the attention he likes more and apparently someone else who shares his interest in dinosaurs! We are taking it day to day--school has been out for illness because the flu and everything else is so bad here right now so we have had a small reprieve. Thanks so much for all the advice everyone has given me!! You all have been so helpful and more! And I am documenting everything! I have a STRONG feeling none of this is over yet.
His increase in agression though could also be because although playing dinosaurs is fun, it can become a stimulation overload so he doesn't know HOW to pull himself back. It doesn't matter who tells me him, if he's in that zone, he has to find a way to release the built up energy before he moves on. At that age, the release usually comes about in undesirable behaviour. Not that I'm speaking of experience with my own son or anything
