OliveOilMom wrote:
It's hard to grow balls once you are grown, but you need to now. Not only to protect your rights but because your daughter is still young enough to learn something from this. While it's way past the most opportune time to teach these lessons, it's not too late to start showing her now that she's not the center of the universe and she can't just do what she wants. Because if you don't teach her these lessons, even in a hard way right now, somebody else will later on and in a much harder and harsher way.
Yes, you're right on this, and especially the timing. Took me until this morning to process what was going on {had to shut myself in my room with music for a long while} and never would've gotten through/figured it out as quickly without the words of yours, OOM, ASDMommyASDKid, and cubedemon6073: thank you a whole lot. This has been coming to a head for awhile.
Anyway as for growing balls, (or in my terms being a tigress), it's weird for me because in the past I have absolutely though temporarily stood up to people
when I was protecting someone else, but for some reason I freeze up when needing to protect myself. But I will next time.
I have to show myself and her, as well as my son, that I can do this.
cubedemon6073 wrote:
Hmmm Wow OliveOilMom! Alpineglow, I know you don't like confrontation but you will have to put your foot down on this somehow. I have issues with it as well. This BS can't fly. OliveOilMom, how do you do it though? How are you able to get into people's faces without fearing they will hurt you severely or murder you?
Alpineglow, Your situation actually has contributed to helping me to answer my question on the other thread of The world doesn't owe you, you owe the world. With your situation and OliveOilMom's answers and explanations I have not only have a better understanding of what the phrase means and ultimately what I need to do.
I have to contribute back to others in someway and sometimes I should contribute to them without expectation of return.
I hope you get through your situation but you did help me to clear up some confusion I had and helped me to get through my situation. To me, you seem like you're a good person and I don't think you deserve the treatment you are receiving. Your daughter does have a lot of gall. OOM is right on this
So this mess of mine helped you, and your thoughts helped me;
that is really gratifying for me. When connections form - both in my pea-brain but also between questions/ threads, it is just cool and makes me feel less like a broken toy human, to borrow a phrase from another WP person.
05 May 2013, 7:09 am
