Thirteen-year-old rarely leaves room

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Well, sounds to me as if he is in a new area and doesn't have much to do. If there is no family younger than him around then he will not feel as there is anyone to play with. Also, if you have no neighbors that are young enough to be in school he may feel like he's meant to be lonely.
You need to just play a game with him and bring family and friends into doing activities along with him and talk to him.

I'm 21, and I stay by myself in a room most of the time when I'm away at college...then again, I have anxiety and depression problems, and am afraid of/don't really like people in general. My aunt's 14-year-old daughter stays in her room in the basement of their house a lot, tho, and she's not anxious or depressed (that I know of), so some of it might just be adolescence.

This sounds pretty normal to me. I'm a sixteen year old diagnosed with AS. I do the same thing and judging from the times my friends are online, they do it too. I think it's more of a generational thing than an autism thing. Before pretty recently, you had to physically be near people to socialize. Now, you just find them on dayZ (while chatting in a different window so other players don't intercept your communications & ambush you) and kill zombies together from opposite ends on the neighborhood.

I wouldn't say I'm much of a gamer, but I still communicate with my friends online more than I do in person. I still jog 5 miles every day though... I'd say it's mostly a teenager thing, but aspies tend to be more introverted and that could be a factor in this too.

As for books that you might find useful, I know my mom read Freaks, Geeks & Asperger Syndrome. I thought it was pretty good, but was more interested in books like "look me in the eye" by John Elder Robison. She didn't ever finnish that one... You can read the book here: http://www.nazarenemedia.net/uploads/8/ ... n_2002.pdf
or you could buy a physical copy if you'd prefer that.

I don't quite think it could simply be the move alone, I'm 18, Aspie and have been doing the exact same for years. My folks had the exact same opinion on me, Taking the laptop won't do much, from what I've experienced it I believe that it will be common for a while, It could possibly be a stage for an aspie in their teens. I have talked to other Aspies on fanfiction that are similar, I hope he has found some way to find a place to fit in by now, I know how hard it is.

The best you can do for him in this instance is to help encourage him to find a place where he can fit in without meddling or getting personally involved.

I have found easier to fit into a similar outcast crowd or just a group with a lot of pataince and open minds, Lastly whatever you do, don't set up any arrangements to find anyone. If he never learns to find a way himself he never will.

I shall keep an eye out on Fanfiction and youtube for him, and see if I would ever be able to help him if I can.

Good luck and I wish the best.