My daughter is in a home and no one is stopping abuse

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The more I read this, the sicker I feel. Isn't there some kind of regulatory agency you could call? I am sure medical facilities must be regulated by someone and there must be some kind of standard that they must adhere to in order to receive government funding, no?

So sorry. You must be beside yourself.

It is a mistake that you didn't get photos or medical documentation for the bruise. But I think you recovered gracefully when you reported the assault you witnessed on the other resident. You now have an official complaint on file before they tried this amateur method of banning you.

Do get medical documentation for the metal object in the vagina. It's possible that it's acting out in response to abuse (I'm sorry, but this is a possibility). Or, as a much more benign possibility, as a teenager I engaged in experimentation and some unusual methods of masturbation. In either case, for them to wait 72 hours is unacceptable.

Is it possible she was either raped, sexually assaulted or was threatened to be sexually assaulted? It's almost as if she's blocking her vagina from something .. at least, I can't imagine why a teenager would do such a thing. Have you asked her about it? I hate to sound alarming - I apologize for that.

The last two responses we better and more direct than mine. I did not want to say that, but yeah...

I really think she needs to be transferred the h*** out of there.

Please let us know if there is anything we can to do to support you.
If, for example, a petition with many signatures, letter writing campaign or other indications that you are supported by an extended community might be helpful, I am sure you would get a lot of support.

Please document everything that happens as thoroughly as you can. I can't help but think of the "Packing" situation in France and the films mentioned here: http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt187047.html

Perhaps you could talk about this with your physician, maybe have him visit her. I don't think they can refuse a visit from her doctor. The medical people usually take these things seriously.

I'm sorry, but re-reading what you've said?

Get her the hell out of there.

This environment appears toxic to your daughter and she needs extricating from it.

One thing I got from Herb Cohen's book You Can Negotiate Anything is that often it's a power move to have someone else negotiate on your behalf. I mean, presidents do this, prime ministers do this, mayors, etc. The other party is then not going to try to bait you or play you. That's off the table. They're more likely to be on their best behavior.

And I think it's fine to run multiple tracks, as long as it's just one person you're asking to do the actual negotiation.