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elkclan
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07 Dec 2013, 4:03 am

My son, NT, has a tendency to whine on FIRST REQUEST. Drives me mad. I tell him to ask in a normal voice, etc.

However, if whines "I need to peee...." - I pretty much drop everything to get that sorted out! :D



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07 Dec 2013, 8:41 am

my son has a natural whine when he talks. he stretches the sound of the words and his speech therapists were working with him. SO, instead of saying, "Mom, could I please have some water?" He says, "Moooom, can I please have some Waaaaaaateeeeeerrr?" That is just how he talks. it gets particularly ear piercing when he is actually whining, where he stretches his sounds even more and is crying a bit.

The ST has shown him a symbol that we do with our hands that signals him to speak in "short sounds" but then we end up with him speaking in what sounds like robot speech. I will then get "mom. can. I. please. have. some. wa. ter. thank. you."

So, we either have long stretched speech, or robot speech. I wish there was a way to have him speak in a more pleasant tone of voice!


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07 Dec 2013, 10:10 am

Aspie1 wrote:
I'm sure they have voice training classes, but I doubt anyone will formally train kids not to whine. There are a lot more NTs than aspies; NT kids can intuitively pick up what tone of voice their parents like best, and therefore have no use for such classes. Aspie kids, unfortunately, are SOL, until they memorize the "correct" tone through trial and error. So even if such classes can be organized for aspie kids, we'd still need to find parents willing to pay for them in this economy.


Pragmatic speech classes are usually offered to kids at the public schools as part of their IEP - at this point, it is the only service my son needs and is receiving. They do offer training in this way - and I know several of the kids in his "group" (I wish they offered individual classes - but that's where the economy comes in) are minority kids whose families are struggling financially.

It is a pretty standard treatment for kids identified to be on the spectrum. Using appropriate tone of voice is one of my son's IEP goals, not just as pertains to whining, but in other situations as well - and it's something they work on with all the kids.