First and foremost, you do not need to give up your life plans for your brother. He's old enough to figure things out and start living his own life. He needs to take some steps to independence.
Pick a field to make a living in and stick with it. Librarian would be a good choice if he likes it.
Get the temper under some control. Anger management or anxiety counseling, medication, whatever. No point losing jobs and friends and going to jail if it isn't necessary.
Accept the AS but don't be defined by it. I like some changes and hate others. It's part of life and must be dealt with head-on.
A wife right now is not a good idea. Get the internals in better shape, first. Finish school and get a job.
I'm 51 and found out 9 months ago that I have AS. When I was 24, my mother had a heart attack. I called the ambulance and dealt with the emergency room. For 8 years I took her to appointments, fought over misbillings, looked after home repairs, took her on outings and got the prescriptions filled. When I was 32, she died and I made the funeral arrangements. At 37 I moved 800 miles from Kentucky to Minnesota. At 47 I moved back. I was a computer programmer for 24 years and respected by my peers.
Your brother has a lot waiting for him once he decides to not let anything hold him back. There are some terriffic people on WP, both AS and NT. Ask him to drop in.
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17 Dec 2007, 5:10 pm
