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My sons also like to carve. When they were younger I bought soap (Ivory) works best and gave them table (butter) knives. When I had time a mixed plaster-of-paris and vermiculite and let it set in milk cartons so they could carve into it. Now they carve wood and sticks with sharper knives but they learned to grab the other allowed carving media when the urge to carve takes over.
When I saw the younger one start trying to carve the furniture I would just give him his carving stuff instead. It became a habit for him. Carving is a very focus intense, soothing activity that I use in my dayhome for days when things are a little more haywire than normal.

I can send you the recipe for the plaster-of-paris if you would like. I also have recipes for play clay, finger paint, bubbles and numerous other craft ideas and recipes.

My mothers solution is to spank him and send him to his room...

I find it funny how we all seem to find "alternatives" instead of direct punishment... It must be a generational thing!

I tried the spanking thing and it DID NOT WORK!! I didn't know T2 had AS and thought he was just being really stubborn like me. Spanking may have it's place in some situations and with certain kids but not mine. I like creative parenting as do alot of the parents here from what I've seen.

I agree with it not working!

My son as a young boy was obsessed with electrical outlets, he wanted to put his fingers and other things in them, we had to watch him really close. My mother (who lived with me at the time) said that we needed to "smack his hands" to get him to stop. We did, it did not work. I think we could have hit his hand with a mallet and he would not have associated the punishment with the action (not that we EVER DID!)

Still though, she is out visiting for two weeks now and it is a real "treat". She seems to think that punishing and beating kids is the way to solve all problems, wonder why I am the neurotic wreak that I am now!

I love the creative parenting and all the suggestions here! It kind of takes the if you can't beat it, then join it or accomidate it approach and most people seem to have very good results!

it was definitely a reaction to his punishment...." you punish me, see what i will do ..."
doesn't seem like he gets the correlation between the crime and the punishment. are you sure he understands the correlation ?