New to Forum/ 13 yr old Aspie son

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This is actually been our worst time in school. My Aspie desparately wanted to fit in and make friends this year and was in regular classroom but, the atmosphere in Middle School is totally unforgiving when you are quirky, nerdy or ackward. Our kids are taunted, teased and picked on to no end and eventually can snap. Mine did and we've had a long hall trying to recover from 1 mistake. Please consider the stress of middle school, let alone the curriculum! If he needs a break, I'd definitely consider it or find an aide, resource provider or teacher whom he can confide in and find reprieve. This was just a compounded, frustrated outburst, Aspies don't like failure, if anything they want to fit in, be perfect at what they do. Keep working on deescalating and open communication, not to add to the problems of a teen having a disability that's having trouble controlling himself in a hastile atmosphere. Easy to say when you're not in the midst of it all.
Best Wishes!

Firstly yes in an adult world it is vandalsim is wrong however as a parent you have to lteach your kids, no it isnt teating somone with AS like rainman, at the end of the day the NT world is not Aspie freindly so those with AS to fit into the world have to do their best to fit in sorry but thats the way it is.

dont forget that this man was threaten by his and this is very dangrous

You know what? Parents MAKE MISTAKES. None of us are perfect...and I think that sometimes, my aspie son thinks that since I am his very safest place in the entire world, that I need to be perfect. I'm not. I get mad just like he does sometimes. Hopefully I've learned (since I'm obviously quite a bit older than he is) that I have to control myself, but you know - I'm the first to admit that sometimes I do stupid things when I'm angry. Each time something like this happens in my house, we use it as an opportunity to learn from it and go forward from there - whether it's that my son acted inappropriately, or that I acted unreasonably. I'm sure that's how this parent feels...and I can totally understand that.