Overly social AS child?

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sounds like my daughter who's dx-ed ADHD hyperactive/impulsive type...........not so sure we believe in the dx, but we're dealing with the issues. it's so hard to get her to stop talking once she's started. she firmly believes that the reason people ask her to stop talking is because they don't like her~ not because they might want to say something. ...........daughter will go on and on and on for hours about just about anything. her continued obsession is animals~ the doc who dx-ed her, though, says that part of the reason she was not dx-ed aspergers was that he could interrupt her discussion about animals & she didn't immediately turn the conversation back to animals. he also said that she had too much eye contact to have aspergers, and that she had too good of an imagination to be aspergers. whatever

Z has always had problems with "volume control". He doesn't tolerate loud noises but seems unable to hear himself. He has no hearing problems (I've heard him tell the cat to stop stomping across the floor) he just need to learn toisten to himself. We have used several signals, hand signals, verbal cues and even shouted replies to indicate that he needs to tone it down. All have worked, briefly and sometimes. It is still an ongoing process. This is actually one of his IEP goals this year.

I know about the injury issues too, the sight of a small amount of blood sets him off but he walked on a broken foot for three weeks with no complaints. Ever try to teach an 8 year old Aspie to do routine visual scans to see if he is really injured?

Meltdowns will happen. What worked was to provide him with a safe place he could go to work them out. When he could calm and control himself then he could rejoin the rest of the family. When he was younger I would physically cary him to his room for these episodes. Now, and they still happen, He can most often remove himself. After wards, sometimes well afterwards we take time to discuss what happened, what the triggers were and what everybody could have done to help ease the situation, ore avoid it all together.

Sounds like you are going to have an interesting life. Enjoy it, I do.

Thanks, I enjoy her very much and whether she has AS or not she is a very unique and challenging child and I wouldn't have it any other way. (Challenging with a capital C )

I enjoy my daughter, too, even though she has been talking non-stop for 2 hours. Her therapist, family doctor, teacher, aide and numerous other people that deal with her keep telling me how she would benefit from the ADHD meds that I know would help her focus. But they would also take away her exuberance and happy, carefree spirit. I just couldn't stand to watch her lose that. I just try to remember the way she flits from activity to activity and her happy excitability whenever we have a bad day and the things just seem to be hopeless.

I also wouldn't change my 2 AS teen sons or my NT teen son. Well, except maybe skipping past the TEEN part!

I agree with you, wholeheartedly. Their lively spirit is what makes them unique. I couldn't bear to see that squelched or dulled with medication of any type.

Schools will pressure you to medicate (the unspoken types of pressure), but as a parent it is important to be aware of alternatives, your rights to not medicate your child. It is more difficult for the team, but so important in preserving child's sense of dignity and exuberance.

My son is an "overly social" Aspie too. He will talk to anyone, but instead of saying "Hi, how are you?" to someone he meets, he opens the conversation with questions like, "When's your birthday?" (He loves numbers.)