help me to understand can my daughter be a Aspi?

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Generally I would recommend against going the medication route.

Going back to the phonon-boson interaction picture. The mistake we make in raising autistic children is that we want to teach them the neurotypical way. We think autistic children's brains are also like alfalfa fields, and that if we tell them something, they should learn. This is like sending phonons into a Bose-Einstein Condensate and expecting a reaction. Nope, you get surprised that there is no reaction, at all. You are trying to teach by "pushing," by pushing knowledge to autistic children. But that is not the way they learn.

Autistic children learn through "pulling," not "pushing." Namely, the bosons are made from fermions, after all. So, once in a while, via quantum fluctuation, the bosons do split into fermions. It's a second order effect not present in the first order interaction Hamiltonian. Fermions do interact with phonons. In terms of autism, this means your starting point is your children's interests and stimming behaviors. When the OP's daughter was having interest in drawing cartoon characters, what I don't see is the parent taking advantage of her child's interest to develop other skills. So, time and opportunities have been wasted. Just like the boy that likes to play sand on the beach: his parents did zero to leverage the boy's interest to open additional skills for the boy. I always tell people that my son learned all the skills he'll ever need to learn in life, and more, from elevators.

A parent's job is to connect different areas of the brain of their autistic children. Finding analogies. Link together their children's various experiences. Link their bad times to their good times, too. That's how you build the giant sequoia tree inside the brain of your children.

See, there is this fable about a frog and a scorpion. You guys could look up on the Internet if you don't already know the story. Anyway, frog asks scorpion why he has stung him midway through the pond, and scorpion says: "I can't help it, it's in my nature." So, nowadays when my son does something that he shouldn't do but enjoys doing, we always laugh it off by saying: "Is this another case of 'I can't help it, it's in my nature?'"

Just two days ago, my daughter got scared of the height riding a hillside cable car. She hid herself low so she didn't need to look at the downhill slope. Towards the end she did stand up to peek as we approached the bottom of the slope. Afterwards I showed her the YouTube video of Russian paratrooper cadets jumping off an airplane, where only one guy panicked but all other cadets jumped off alright. See, it was a good opportunity to remind my daughter about the two forces inside our brain: our instinct of fear, and our logical thinking. Things like that. Every little tiny moment in life, is a good moment of teaching, for linking to other experiences that she has been exposed to before. For autistic children, you teach them at every moment in life. Linking analogies together. When I saw my daughter's reaction inside the cable car, the image of Russian paratroopers just popped up in my mind. (My daughter has seen that video before). So, I linked these two isolated episodes together for my daughter. That's how you grow the giant sequoia tree. Why do I think about Russian paratroopers? Why do I think about the frog and the scorpion? Why do I think about the boy playing sand on the beach? Why do I think about phonon-boson interaction in superfluid liquid helium? I guess it's because myself have a giant sequoia tree inside my brain, right? Autistic parents are the best parents for autistic children. Mother Nature has designed it that way. Autism is hereditary for a good reason.

My daughter and I were at the psychiatrist again. The doctor again emphasized that my daughter does not have sufficiently pronounced autistic traits. That all of her symptoms such as fixation, selectivity, dyspraxia, and socialization problems are more likely to lead to a diagnosis of personality disorder. But at the age of 16, it is impossible to determine personality disorder, because the personality is still being formed. But I don’t understand how my daughter’s personality is formed if she denies herself from the age of 3 and wears masks. The doctor also recommends that the daughter will start to take the Concerta. I'm confused. no one can explain to me what is happening with my daughter.

I am a little confused myself, so let us look at this again. The first thing that struck me is that your doctor perceives a current special interest. Do you believe that to be true? If so that is an important observation. The reason why is because Aspies are generally motivated by their special interest. So if you can teach her how to become more social, how to make friends and keep them, then she may come onboard. Because you both share the same goal.

Since it appears that you are asking for some clarity. Then I would advise you to read the following book if you haven't already. "The Complete Guide to Asperger Syndrome" by Tony Attwood. It is a well written book. One observation is that the way asperger's manifest in females is different than in males. That statement may be true for male Aspies but not especially true for female Aspies.

Another point that you made is If her desire is to fit into this world, she may look at the word Asperger as the same as being called disabled. Your daughter probably senses she is different than others, but being called disabled would be like driving a nail into her. So perhaps she needs to understand there is another term. It is called Nonconformist. Many Aspies because they have a slightly different brain structure, look at the world in a different way. Many will grow up to be nonconformist. Here is a few quotes about nonconformist:

Here's to the crazy ones. The misfits. The rebels. The troublemakers. The round pegs in the square holes. The ones who see things differently. They're not fond of rules. And they have no respect for the status quo. You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify or vilify them. About the only thing you can't do is ignore them. Because they change things. They push the human race forward. And while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius. Because the people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world, are the ones who do. – Rob Siltanen: Apple, "Think Different" campaign

It gives me great pleasure indeed to see the stubbornness of an incorrigible nonconformist warmly acclaimed. - Albert Einstein

Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it is time to pause and reflect. - Mark Twain

Our wretched species is so made that those who walk on the well-trodden path always throw stones at those who are showing a new road. - Voltaire

Not all those who wander are lost. - J.R.R. Tolkien

You have enemies? Good. That means you've stood up for something, sometime in your life. - Winston Churchill

Do not follow where the path may lead. Go, instead, where there is no path and leave a trail. - Ralph Waldo Emerson

A "normal" person is the sort of person that might be designed by a committee. You know, "Each person puts in a pretty color and it comes out gray." - Alan Sherman

The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself. - Friedrich Nietzsche

The average man is a conformist, accepting miseries and disasters with the stoicism of a cow standing in the rain. - Colin Wilson

Freedom began on the day the first sheep wandered away from the herd. ― Marty Rubin

Aspies, especially nonconformist Aspies, deal with much greater stress than the average individual. Stress can build unless properly vented and grow into distress. Too much stress can produce trauma and a variety of mental illnesses. So I will recommend two books that can help with purging stress. These are:
"In an Unspoken Voice" by Peter A. Levine
"The Revolutionary Trauma Release Process" by David Berceli

As I said before, I am not a strong believe in medicating an Aspie. It may help in the short term but can backfire long term. It can destroy their unique capabilities.