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25 Dec 2007, 2:57 pm

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25 Dec 2007, 9:40 pm

Responsbility after 21 may depend on the severity and services offered. Some parents may not have much choice if the adult is very effected.



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26 Dec 2007, 2:25 am

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Hypothetically speaking if a father or mother (or both) is autistic in some form and they choose to bring a child into the world knowing the much more extreme risk factors for passing on the genes syndromes. Should they therefor be held semi-responsible to have to help their child if it born to be severely autistic unable to integrate into society past 21 years old? (like help give them shelter/support/food/water) and beyond considering it was their choice not there childs to be brought into the world and their parents played a dangerous game of risk and were unable to guarantee a independent life should some forms of responsibility be past onto them as well?

What would be your plans to help your child if he is unable to get a job or qualify for disability, and unable to provide its own basic needs?

What would be your plans in place to help your children once you pass on as nobody can live forever?

Do you have someone who can look after you're child or help them once you're gone?

I myself have AS and wish to maybe someday have kids but as all this has crossed my mind that I may have a strong chance to pass on this gene I believe I would not want to have someone go through the extremely painful life experiences and possible suicidal thoughts I have been through at times being AS because I would have rather been born NT as well. I would want for my child to have a better life then me and I believe I would want to be able to make sure I can 100% certaintdy that this trait would not be passed on to my children.


Me and my ex husband are both on the spectrum. Together we had one quite disabled ASD child and one mostly NT child. The mostly NT kid is not disabled at all in the usual sense of the word, and in some ways quite extraordinarily equipped to deal with the world. I mean that kid could take care of me, maybe... :D

Both of my kids are over 21 by a few years.

The disabled one lives with me and doesn't seem to object to harshly to that arrangement. I would feel lonely I'm sure if we didn't live together, but I also think I could adapt, so it's not like I'm keeping the kid prisoner here. I have told this kid that if I die that the State will try to put him/her in a group home and that s/he should fight it and tell people that s/he won't go for it. There's a very, very disabled young man who lives across the parking lot from me (in an apt. complex). His parents live here, and I imagine they could well afford to keep him at home, but it looks like they want hi elsewhere, or possibly I'm being harsh and it's the young man who doesn't want to live with his parents. At any rate, I think this young man needs quite a bit more help than my kid would, and it seems to work. I mean, he seems to be well cared for. He's autistic, I'd say, but he has some kind of genetic/congenital disorder, too.

My point is, if you had a child, just as if anyone else has a child, it's a roll of the dice. Some parents think that they had made a deal with someone to only have healthy normal or very superior children. They are enraged that life gave them a kid who is not what they thought they were promised. It's sort of like, "Now look! Barbie and Ken never had a handicapped kid! Why should I??" This attitude has been around for a long time, but people used to just fob off their children on to the state if they didn't want to deal. Everyone did it, or rather lots of the "nice" people did it. These days it's harder to foist off your kid without your friends being shocked that you'd do that.... and also people have the idea that they should have more control on how their kids turn out, what with several kinds of prenatal testing available, and selecting embryos for male/female, etc.

It's my feeling that parents need to take care of their disabled kids for as long as necessary and not whine about "losing their life" or whatever.