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THANK YOU! my son doesn't stop. He drives me nuts but I love him so! I will be going crazy one sec. and the next sec. I will be cracking up because of something that came out of his mouth! \

I have ADD so it's overstimulation for me, too.

I'm like that too. Sometimes after a while I don't even know what I'm talking about anymore. I almost bought a T-Shirt that reads: "Help! I'm talking and I can't shut up!" So me.

I used to kind of do that also. Maybe you can give her information about it, and puzzles, and all, to try to keep her active in other ways. I admire your desire to allow her to keep her AS attitude, etc...

I do that.

When nate keeps going on about something, we will research it and find out more about it. He talks so much but when I do this, it actually seems to help him. We also get puzzles and such that surround his interests. people may think that it would make him worse but I haven't seen that. It keeps him busy. He was into trains for about two years, along with nt's as well. We finally got a lego train set - a lot of pieces. He then loved Legos - went from trains to legos! We just got a really neat Lego Mars system that he just put together with his dad. Now he is talking "joking" around like an alien. It is driving me nuts, but I play along When I don't just have fun with him, that's when he seems to talk more incessantly.

If he is anything like I was/am, he wants to just stick to his interests. ALSO, he would be interested in puzzles. Frankly, if I had a child, I would try to direct narrow interests towards larger ones. The child may learn a LOT! Many AS people are known for that and, I am sure, THAT is why.

Thanks! You are very helpful. My lil' one is almost five years old and his memory is so good, especially for how things work. Tonight, he went into a large explanation tonight how the bathtub drain works and what the water does, where it goes, etc. His interests are centered around how things work. His interest is narrow in that it is centered on how things work (like this even when he was practically an infant) - he talks about how things work almost all the time. It isn't with one particular object necessarily. At least, not for now. He did use the Light bright and made what he thinks the duct system looks like under are house by pegs. It was pretty good. I have no idea how he came up with it. He talked all about it for at least 30 minutes. Then he went on to figuring out the next thing - I don't even remember what it was. I am really going to take his interests and try to capitalize on them. He is such a quick learner.

Thanks for all the suggestions everyone. Keep them coming. I wasn't the OP but I am going through this so much with my son right now.

I will try the redirection idea as well (talk for five minutes...) If my son wants to really get something out and he feels no one is listening to him, that is when he will have his meltdowns. He hardly has meltdowns but those are the times it does happen.
The time thing may work.

I absolutely love how individuals with AS help out on the parenting forum.

I'm like this sometimes, though my friends don't seem to mind. I not always bothered if they are actually listening I also phase out often when, they are talking.

Just nod and say 'aha aha'. If they ask a question, then you might need to think about it or say 'you don't know', etc

Sounds like me, although I used to take things apart to see how they work, including the air conditioning unit. Subsequently they used to take my toys away from me and give me junk and bit of string. My play was 'self sufficient', I was interested in practical play rather than make believe stuff.

Much later on I joined the forum of http://www.howstuffworks.com/ . Unfortunately they closed the forum. After a while I was sent a link to a new forum, from former members . Somehow it didn't feel the same so I never actually visited. I don't know if I've still got the email but if I find it you can let you son go there and ask as many questions as he likes.

I also think wikipedia can be excellent, although you need to explain that not all article are accurate or a decent quality as it is the public contributing, so to try and follow up referances himself.

WOW, that is JUST like I was!! !! ! I was interested in how EVERYTHING worked. I still am a bit, and probably still would be big time except things are changing too fast. Anyway, that grew into an interest in Electronics! THAT spread to COMPUTERS! My current job is in computers.

HECK, don't ask me how a refrigerator works, because I will go into EXCRUCIATING detail. One thing though, you probably won't have any questions. Want a little example?

One question you might HAVE asked was Why does part of the refridgerator get so hot if its job is to cool?

I would have already said that since you can't actually add cold, the heat in the inside of the refrigerator is dissipated in the coolant.(This is the reason why spraying something on you generally feels cool, and is also why the evaporation of perspiration cools you.) The coolant used to be freon and, before that, it was ammonia and water.

The only thing required is that it move fast and, preferably, be a gas at room temperature. The heat dissipates into the coolant which goes into an area known as the evaporator. THERE, the heat is dissipated into the air, and the gas ends up shooting along faster. It feels cold simply because it takes the heat away from the general area.

BTW the freezer is generally made so much colder by a fan. That works similar to the idea of windchill. The air is circulated better, so it can be better dissipated by the coils.

Am I starting to sound a bit like your kid.

If his interest broadens, he might tell you how electrical loads can generate heat and the crystalline structures in ICs are rated to take only so much heat, so they generally dissipate that to a device known as a heatsink which increases surface area so a mild breeze can dissipate the heat. Of course, as chips pack more into less space, they get HOTTER, so the heatsinks get bigger and/or have tubes running through them for a coolant based system that may be identical to a refrigerator!

The DIFFERENCE is that he could then talk about and gates and or gates and computer memory and ras and cas etc.... If he understands all that, and a bit of programming, he will be better than 99% of the programmers out there now!

OK, monologue over!

Oh my!! You are exactly like my child. That is how he is.
BTW: Very interesting information about the refrigerator!
That is how he thinks!! He already seems to know much more than I know about how certain things work. I have no idea how he comes up with some of his information.

He has difficulty playing with other preschoolers because he gets very specific on how things work or how the equipment is put together and they just want to swing or slide. The other day, they all saw a bee and Nate went into some lengthy explanation regarding the bee and how they transfer pollen from flower to flower. I love my child.

equals true: You also sound like Nate, too. Nate started using a screwdriver before age two! We let him as long as we were there. He started to take things apart at age two. He started using a smaller screwdriver to take his trains apart at age 3 1/2. Too bad he couldn't remember how to put those things back together. He also fixes things around the house with his screwdriver. He is our little fix it man.

Too bad they closed that forum.

My husband, who I feel is mild Aspergers is a computer programmer!! !

I started using a screwdriver when I was like 2 or 3, and was the fixit guy. To some degree, I STILL am!

Yeah, it is like there is something driving us all to this. MAYBE it is just curiousity and exposure, but WOW!

I was about to say that the ones who figure out how things work become the ones who fix everything. But you beat me to it.

My mom took the vaccum apart when I was 6 and couldn't get it back to gether and I was the one that put the pieces back together.

I like fixing things. But my specialty isn't in how things work exactly. Mine is in the components that make them what thay are and how the pieces fit together to form a giant co-mingled puzzle, where if one piece is out of place/broken/missing, the rest don't quite fit.