new to this, son DX, age 5, need school ADVICE!

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Many would be grateful to you for taking it on! Look to some other districts for models, if you do have to set up your own. It should be district-wide, rather than just school-wide. If the school district is not cooperative about it, you'll need the cooperation of the PTA's of each school in the district to post announcements. Good luck!




That's so cool about the behavior mark! Either he had a great day, or the teacher is catching on (or some combination). Whichever, it's great! And it's adorable that he "has" a girlfriend. You might want to keep an eye on what's going on, just to make sure that his interactions don't become inappropriately intrusive. My son's first girlfriend wasn't until fourth grade.

Yay, Amywithlemon -- it's getting better already!

I hope the good times continue!

One method to help deal with class room behavior is to limit it to one behavior at a time.

maybe a something like a large poker chip, that contains a reminder to raise your hand when you want to talk.

When the behavior is performed correctly, the teach puts one chip on his disk.
if the behavior is incorrect, one chip is removed.

if the child collects 5 chips by the end of the day,
they get some kind of reward at home.

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA...poker chips, aAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA

my daughter went through a year with a teacher who believed poker chips were the end all & be all to behavior management. my daughter would consistently get 2-3 chips a day (NOT a good thing). I only got the teacher to end this system with my daughter when i pointed out that daughter obviously didn't understand that getting the chips was a bad thing. i mean, if daughter is coming home & telling me that she can now balance 2 poker chips on their sides- is she really getting it ?

LOL!

My son probably would have "gotten it," but if he hadn't received adequate numbers of rewards, he would have totally disinvested from the program, which would have made it useless, or he would have had massive tantrums because he hadn't gotten his reward. These programs have to be very carefully set up so that they are not frustrating to the child - there has to be reasonable opportunity to "win." And winning has to be something that is valuable to the child. If it is something that is abstract, that may not work. If it is something that gets "lost" at the end of the day if you don't accumulate enough "points," that may be too frustrating, too. It is likely to feel like all that hard work was for nothing.

You have to know your child, and remember, you know your child better than school does. Just because something worked well with another child with ASD, doesn't mean it will work well for yours. If they say things like "it can't hurt to try," they are lying. If you know they are proposing something that will not work with your child, try to figure out, as rationally as you can, why it won't work. If it won't work, it can hurt. Our little guys form opinions quickly, and those opinions can rarely be changed. You don't want him to decide that school is an awful place where they are trying to make him miserable, or that his teacher is an evil person. If he decides his teacher is evil, the year is over.

Hi there,

Perhaps I'm missing something here, but your child has only been in school a week and is getting into trouble for not following the 'rules' - you mention putting his hand up and walking in straight lines.

Sorry, but I'm a teacher too and I really think the school is at fault for expecting all the children to behave like little robots in immediately grasping and following rules that are, when we think about it, a supression of children's natural spontaneity and joie de vivre.

I think your son needs to be given a little more time to settle and learn what's expected of him and only if the behaviour continues after a reasonable settling in period should some form of formal behaviour management be instituted.

Modelling and peer example are the best ways for young children to absorb and learn classroom behaviours and they should be allowed time to do so. Just give your child time and ask your child's teacher to do the same.