Aspie1 wrote:
I was like that too. When I started high school, my parents created a savings account for me, under my own name. Their logic was that it would help me save money in a secure place, as opposed to keeping it in my desk. But there was a catch: the account was such that I could deposit the money myself, but could withdraw it only with a parent's signature. So I essentially had to ask my parents' permission to spend money they didn't even give me. So when I'd get a paycheck, I'd stop at a check cashing place on the way home, and get cash. Sure, I got charged fees for doing that, but to me, it was far better than having my parents act as gatekeepers for my own money.
When my parents found out, they were angry, because I was going against what they thought was for my own good. But I much preferred to pay the cashing fee and have unrestricted access to my money, than get all of it but have my parents take control my access to it.
So the day after my 18th birthday, I went to the bank, and closed the account that's been causing me so much hassle. I moved whatever money was there to a regular checking account that I had full access to.
Yeah, that's outright wrong. I could understand that if you were younger, and were behaving like the boy in the OP. But as soon as you make your own money, you should have full access to that money.
If there is anything that I would tell parents of aspie children on this forum, it would be to not become control freaks when your children begin to deserve more autonomy.
27 Feb 2009, 5:50 pm
