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violetchild
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15 Jul 2010, 12:10 pm

http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt131895.html someone may get something out of that post. It shows just how difficult we can sometimes find a simple instruction or expectation to be.
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(i read the posts to my other comments.. thanks for the comments. I'd was worried i could of sounded overly harsh as I dont always know when im coming across that way and end up offending people)



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15 Jul 2010, 11:52 pm

violetchild wrote:
http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt131895.html someone may get something out of that post. It shows just how difficult we can sometimes find a simple instruction or expectation to be.
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(i read the posts to my other comments.. thanks for the comments. I'd was worried i could of sounded overly harsh as I dont always know when im coming across that way and end up offending people)


Thanks violetchild, that post is very helpful. While I do expect my chidren to learn to do their chores, I don't expect them to be perfect and I have learned to break instructions down into bite-sized chunks. Also, no worries about how you're coming across...you're coming across just fine and as I said, your insights are helpful and much appreciated :)



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16 Jul 2010, 5:29 am

I thought I'd share what works best for my daughter. She is almost 13 so not ready for a job, but this is how we do chores.

I make a list of her chores, print it out, and hang it on a wall for her. We used to have a cartoon character at the top, but now she sometimes feels she's too old for this :). You'll notice most of this stuff should be common sense, but she still forgets. In the morning I'll ask her if she did her morning stuff, she'll say yes, and I ask her to read off each one. Almost every day she forgets one or two and has to rush off to do them. She is generally compliant as long as I have the list up.

This is a sample of her chore lists:

Morning Chores

-Get dressed in clean clothes
-Brush hair
-Eat breakfast
-Brush teeth
-Use deoderant
-Feed/water cats
-Sweep porch

Afternoon Chores

-Eat lunch
-Water plants
-Wash, dry, put away dishes

Bedtime Chores

-Put on PJ's
-Put dirty clothes away, hang up clean clothes
-Brush teeth
-Water cats
-In bed by 8pm



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12 Aug 2010, 1:16 am

azurecrayon wrote:

how about.... not giving her a reward? chores are chores, they are things we do to contribute to the household, to pay for our room and board. they are not things we do to get extra privileges. so perhaps try changing it up. instead of, if you dont do the chore you get no privileges, try, if you dont do the chore you get MORE CHORES.



This is beyond idiocy.

The question is about being unable to motivate ones kids to do chores.

How would you go about making them do MORE if you can't get them to do ANY?


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