I need help with my son

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Okay so I have been thinking....

When my son was small he used to go thru something we called "Monkey Week"...

Monkey Week was a week (sometimes 2) in which hed be super hyper and unable to concentrate and hed act out
and you couldnt stop it or control it.
After the week was over hed wake up one morning and be different, and mature and more verbal or kinda
like a video game, POWERED UP or GAINED A NEW SKILL OR TOOL...

I dont recall him having a Monkey Week for years now, but now that he had his episode the other day hes
like SUPER CALM and relaxed...

Maybe he meds prevent me from seeing outward signs of MW but maybe the outbrst was a MW ...

/Thinking out loud

BOTH dogs are EBs...

You could be on to something ...

Keep in mind though that you need discipline and followthough. Not just understanding of why perhaps. That's the start.

Discipline is something I have a super hard time with myself. Hoping to get better at it as he grows.

Discipline is the process of providing consistent results to consistent actions. It does not have to be bad or painful, just instructive. That term gets misunderstood a lot, in my experience. And misapplied more.

So tomorrow I will be starting to keep a journal, to see if I notice any "Triggers" to his behaviors.

Lets see how this goes.

I was going to start one 3 days ago but kept forgetting...

Good luck figuring it out, PoppinTums!

So here we are once again...

This morning was shaping up to be a great day. I had got all the housework done on tuesday, I had my day all planned out,
my son was dressed and ready for school. He came home last night from school all proud to show me the wooden pen
he made in woodshop. He was in a good mood last night.

So I went to sit in the window in the livingroom to wait for his bus. his bus came, he tried to open the front door and it was sticking and I went to help him and that got him even more frustrated and he got very volatile and lashed out hit me, broke my glasses and ran out the door and leapt onto the bus and then stated he hated the bus driver and then got off the bus told me he wasnt going to school ..

He then told me he wanted me to beat the sh*t out of him and he was gonna throw the dogs out the window, kick me out and live here by himself and that made me call the cops.

They were here for an hour and even offered to take him to school, but he said no.

Hes calm enough now but hes up in his room.

Hopefully he'll fall asleep and sleep it off

I recently worked out my stomach problems (nerves and hormones!) the house is super clean!
He made the honor roll at his new school! He said he loved school 3 days ago!
Hes a great kid 99% of the time!

I got him into a new Psychologist/Psychiatrist place, cause the old Dr wasnt doing anything. I had one appointment so far with intake.

I even told him when he got home we were gonna play some board games on friday nights.

IM doing everything right.

I think its that initial huge burst of frustration that triggers a point of no return in his head and BOOM!
its outta control!

When he comes downstairs or I see him again, he will be apologetic. Sorry he did it all and he will understand what he did was wrong.

This is the same s**t I went thru with his father, and his anger issues but his father never hit me, but he flew off the handle so quick and it wasnt anything he could help...Its unstoppable once it occurs.


I really dont know what to do,

Hospitalizing him will accomplish nothing! The event is over, hes calm now...
But Im looking to the future...And I dont want anymore of these incidents to happen.

Try the privacy pop. It's on privacy pop dot com. You can put it on the bed, and they feel like they have their own space. When they are acting out, they can go there for quiet time. Hope this helps! I've found this helpful.

Some of his behaviors and the mood swings sound like Bipolar. If you have a chance, check out this book from the library

http://www.amazon.com/Bipolar-Child-Def ... 404&sr=8-1

I actually read the 2nd edition, not this one (the 3rd).

I'd like to throw my own two cents in here, but take it with a grain of salt because my situation isn't 100% the same as your sons.

I spent a good chunk of my high school years institutionalized or in treatment centers. I think it saved my life, and I love my parents for being brave enough to place me despite knowing I would resent them for a long time. Based on my experiences, I would not rule out putting your son in a short-term behavioral program to evaluate him and teach him some coping skills in a safe environment.

Now the caveat - I am not on the spectrum, and I cannot fully appreciate the complex psyche of those on the spectrum, so I have no idea if your son would find these experiences scarring.

He sleeps thru the night, every night.

His moods always predictable and consistent until he gets frustrated with something.
No one has ever mentioned bipolar in all of his 17 years.

I just dont think hes bipolar